Now let’s look at why this happens
and how to do it differently. Most people who want to make changes in their lives are highly motivated in the beginning. Having decided on the goal and the start date, there is often excitement and deter- mination to succeed. In the beginning, things may be easy and happen fairly automatically because the behavior is new and different as well as having the positive thoughts, maybe even daydreams, of what it will be like to accomplish the goal – to actually be the ‘finished product’. Then as time goes on, more and more willpower is needed to handle the discomfort and stress involved in making a change. When this happens, motivation tends to dwindle. Negative emotions and negative self talk tend to increase and it gets harder and harder to get oneself to continue trying. We begin to sabotage our efforts and revert back to the old behaviors that gave us the exact results which we want to change. Next is the disappointment we feel as we finally admit to ourselves that we have failed once again. This common scenario is actually
flawed due to the fact that when we use willpower to make changes in our behav- ior, we are trying to use the conscious mind to change a behavior whose roots are in the unconscious mind. To make these changes, we need to begin at the level of the unconscious mind. Let me explain. We have two levels of mind: our conscious mind and our uncon- scious mind. Our conscious mind is what
we use in our everyday thinking state to reason, problem solve and do logical thinking. Our conscious mind is relatively small and is only 5 - 10% of our mind power. It is within our conscious mind where our willpower is housed. On the other hand, our unconscious mind houses all of our beliefs, our memo- ries, our emotions and it is the seat of our imagination. It also runs our autonomic nervous system which keeps us alive by taking care of all of the automatic systems in our body such as beating our heart and digesting our food, etc. Our unconscious mind is huge and is 90 – 95% of our mind power. The unconscious mind runs every- thing on auto-pilot and doesn’t like to make changes. Since it has so many things to control, it wants everything to stay ‘sta- tus quo’. When we decide we want to make a change in our life, we make that decision with our conscious mind. How- ever, our unconscious mind, which houses our beliefs, promotes behaviors which are aligned with the beliefs we hold. The unconscious mind always has a good intention behind every behavior it pro- motes. So when we decide we want a change in our life that is not in alignment with our unconscious beliefs, we have only 5% of our mind wanting the change and 95% of our mind steering us to con- tinue along our previous path. Therefore, when we use willpower to try to attain a goal, we only have 5% of our mind power working in the direction of the new goal whereas 95% of our mind power is
working to keep us in our old patterns. This is why so many people find themselves failing to achieve their New Year’s resolu- tions.
In order to be successful in attaining
your New Year’s resolutions, you have to address the issues in the unconscious mind that are getting in the way and get it on board with your conscious desire. The way to get your unconscious mind on board is to release the unconscious beliefs that get in the way of your efforts in achieving your goal. Once those are released, you can then much more easily maintain the changes in behavior, continuing doing the things you need to do, to actually attain your goal. That is the key. The unconscious mind has to be on board with the con- scious desire to succeed. Once the uncon- scious mind and conscious mind have the same objective, things begin to fall into place: you stop the self-sabotage, you continue making the changes you need to, so that you actually achieve your New Year’s resolutions. When this happens, you live more of the life you truly want and feel the empowerment of success.
Marcelle Hammer, a Certified Medical- Support Clinical Hypnosis Practitioner, is owner of Forsyth Integrative Therapy lo- cated at 1495 Rymco Dr, Suite 106, Winston-Salem, NC. Call 336-768-7000 for an appointment, a free confidential consultation or to get more information. See ad on page 31.
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with a total of 31 years’ experience in private pediatric practice and 11 years in academic pediatrics. He of- fers an integrative and functional medicine approach to ADD/ADHD and other chronic health problems. Well known and highly respected
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