happen. If you’ve slacked off in the exercise department and aren’t feeling great about the way you look but you’re only interested in fi t, athletic women – not gonna happen. If you’re not very self-confi dent or motivated, but you’re attracted to outgoing, self-assured women – not gonna happen. You’ll hear me say this a million times - LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE!
4. Have Fun Being Single. This is the number one thing I did that I think allowed me to attract the perfect guy for me. I truly enjoyed the time I had while I was single. I did what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it without having to consider a signifi cant other’s feelings or plans. I stayed up as late or slept in as late as I wanted to. I went to the gym and exercised when I wanted to. I ate what I wanted to. I went out with friends whenever I wanted to. And – most importantly – I had alone time whenever I wanted it. There is something so freeing in this, I feel sorry for people who rush from one relationship to the next as they never get the chance to have this luxury and necessity! How do you really know what you want when you never give yourself enough time to hear your inner guidance?
I also loved meeting new men. I never thought of dating as a hassle or uncomfortable and I just enjoyed the process of learning about new people. Sure it was kind of a bummer when a guy I was just starting to like “disappeared” or said he wasn’t interested. But the way I look at that is he wasn’t the right one and it wasn’t meant to be. On to the next!
5. Be Open to New Possibilities. She may not come in the exact
package you expect. Now, I know I just told you to make an exten- sive list describing your ideal partner – and I do strongly suggest that you do that – but then I want you to put it away and forget about it. You’ve put the intention out there, now let the Universe do its work. One thing that I didn’t put on my list was whether or not my ideal guy was divorced or had children. I put down that I didn’t want children, so at the time I was thinking I would just attract someone who hadn’t been married and didn’t want kids either. Wrong! Had I been obsessed with that list – I may not have given this guy a chance – divorced twice with 3 older kids. I loved everything about him, so I decided to give it a try. I know some things might be deal breakers – like women who are smokers (if you don’t) or just want to lie around on the couch all day (if you want to go on a hike or hit the gym) – but aside from that, don’t be afraid to give someone that you normally wouldn’t consider a chance.
Now you have your game plan for attracting the perfect woman
for you. I’d love to hear from you on what you want in an ideal part- ner AND what challenges you think you have in fi nding her.
Dr. Diane Hayden is the owner and publisher of Natural Nutmeg Magazine, Essential Living Maine Magazine and Nutmeg Creative Media. She is a speaker, writer and workshop facilitator. She holds a B.S. in Marketing from the University of Connecticut, a Ph.D. in Ex- ercise Physiology from the University of Maryland and is an Empow- erment Life Coach. For 20 years, her work has focused on inspiring individuals to learn about the power of thought and emotion and how it shapes their lives. Her passion centers on helping even just one person navigate the dating scene and fi nd the perfect partner with whom they can share their life You can learn more about her online at
http://naturalnutmeg.com/category/where-is-dr-di-travel/ or
http://drdianehayden.com/.
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