something that could lead to a termination? I would not start with the problem, I would start with the person. How are they feeling? Is there anything troubling them, and how is their heart? Strange questions that have our HR friends freaking out about right now. Understanding the decision and why it was made can help you to love the person and guide them to a better decision next time. Almost all of us have been told when conducting discipline that “documentation” is to just state the facts. Like we have all become a surly detective who is questioning a suspect under a single hanging light bulb is a cold sterile room. Since when did this become such a laborious and drawn out process? Why do we make it so complicated, and why do we take the heart out of leadership?
This is not for the faint of heart. The situation of the heart is complicated; the task is not. Did you catch that? The task of clocking in is not hard, but if someone is consistently late, why are we discussing the task when clearly the problem is not the actual task? They have clocked in, that isn’t the issue, it is the why behind it. Simon Sinek, author of the book Start
With Why, states it plainly in the title. The why matters! Don’t ignore this as a human being. The why can be messy and long. It might not allow you to wrap up the conversation in under 10 minutes. It requires your time. It requires your love.
Loving honestly is not easy. It’s not 3 simple steps that you check off a list and you are done. It takes you loving first. It takes you loving even when it is uncomfortable or inconvenient. It takes you loving even when it is thrown back in your face. It takes a mental fortitude to endure, even when the mainstream way is telling you to stop and go back to the way you have always done it. The situation of the heart is complicated, but the task is not. Change starts with you, so I challenge you to start Loving Honestly.
David is a married father of two great kids, chief dog walker to two adorable rescues and enjoys reading a great book.
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