Wouldn’t you be mad if your boss told you to work late 3 times in a week?

They are very outwardly focused with the intention of blaming someone for some slight or wrong you feel has been heaped upon you. Now ladder questions shift the focus

inward, which is where all your personal power lies. They sound like this:

I wonder why I feel triggered by her ac- tions?

What lesson could he be teaching me right now?

What does this feeling signal that is miss- ing from my life at this moment?

Again, curiosity leads you out of this hole and into a place of creative power.

The Hole of Confusion Imagine you are in an emotional hole

of confusion. Life seems to be spinning but not going anywhere. You feel frazzled and exhausted. You know you need to make a change but just don’t know where to go or what to do. Your shovel questions sound like this:

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What should I do? Why can’t I make a decision? Why does this have to be so hard? These questions have a woe is me

tone. They just serve to fortify the depth of confusion you are in.

On the other hand, ladder questions sound like this:

What is one small action I can take today to move me forward?

Am I really stuck or just afraid?

What’s the worst thing that could happen and can I live with that? These questions inspire action, even

if it’s just a baby step. They are inward focused on your power and ability instead of outward focused on confusion and overwhelm.

You will know the type of questions

you are asking yourself by how they feel. When you catch your mental chatter or catch yourself speaking to someone using

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shovel questions pause and pivot into a ladder question. Don’t spend any time or energy beating yourself up for doing it wrong – that’s just another way to keep yourself dug in! My best advice to you is, when you

find yourself in an emotional hole, stop digging!!

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