around to go clean their room, you may need to give a consequence. "I need you to help out and clean your room, or you will not be allowed to have any friends over until it is done." End of story.


3. Use "I Statements"


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When we try to resolve a conflict, we often turn to accusations and name calling. By taking this approach, we make it difficult for the other person to hear our point of view. Rather than focusing blame on the other person, focus on describing the situation and your feelings. For instance, if your friend of- ten leaves you waiting, you could say, "When you arrive later than we said we would meet, I feel hurt and disrespected." Or if you’re on the other side and are consistently late every- where you go you may take the initiative to say, “Thank you for waiting for me, I appreci- ate it.” Acknowledgment and communication are key to keep the balance.


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4. Say "No." One area that can be difficult is turn-


ing down requests. People can find them- selves overwhelmed with activities and a long to-do list simply because they find it hard to say “no.” You may find that you feel like you have to justify why you are saying "no," but this is not the case. A simple "no" or "no, thank you for asking" is enough. If you are prone to saying "yes" too easily, you may want to start by saying, "Let me give that some thought." That will buy you the time you need to really decide if you have room in your life for one more activ- ity. Some may say learning to say “no” is a skill that takes practice. You decide how long you think it will take you to master it. Practice makes perfect.


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