cheltonian advice
FACING YOUR FEARS
Fear in the formof the fantasy of Halloween is embraced as an exciting opportunity to dress up and party and being spooked is all part of the fun! Real fear, however, isn’t so much fun and can cause a great deal of discomfort and anxiety. Fear is your fundamental, deeply
wired and vital response to danger. If you didn’t feel fear, youwould not be alerted to situationswhere you need to protect yourself fromlegitimate threats. If, however, you live in fear that everything is a potential danger then youwould never take any risks and potentiallymiss out on some of life’smost enriching experiences and opportunities. Howwemanage our fear can be
useful in helping us to be able to cope better. Here are three suggestionson howtomanage your fear:
Flipyour fear Identifywhat it is exactly that you fear themost and articulate this to yourself. Itmay help to actuallywrite it down so you have a better clarity of the situation and your thoughts surrounding it.Once you have established and acknowledgedwhat you perceive to be theworst-case scenario flip it over in yourmind and imaginewhat the best-case scenario could look
like.Begin then to train yourmind to visualisewhat that best- case scenariowould look like, sound like and feel like.
By LiggyWebb
Talk about it Sharing fears in a supportive and constructive environmentwill help you to rationalise your fears, take away some of the loneliness that fear can often impose and seek out positive options and alternatives. Friends and family who have a genuine interest in your well-being can be very supportive in times of need and I amalso a big fan of talking therapies, especially CBT – cognitive behavioural therapy. Identifywhatwouldwork best for you.
Face your fears Avoiding something you are afraid of can actuallymake the fear seem a lotmore frightening than it actually is. Your imagination can be very powerful and almost trick you into believing that the fear is real. Facing your fearswill help you build your confidence and courage
muscles.When you face your fears, youwill start to realise thatwhat you fearedwasn’t as scary after all and it will help you to build the courage to domore things that youmay feel fearful about.
Summary Remember, fear is a product of your imagination and if you allowit to take over it can cause you to fear things that do not presently andmay never exist.
“Figure out howyou’re scaring yourself. Then acknowledge that you are creating your fear and you’ll start to triumph over it.” JackCanfield
Pleasefollow@liggywonTwitter for regular tipsonwellbeing. 22 SEPTEMBER /OCTOBER 2018 THECHELTONIAN
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