C O A CHIN G & COUNS ELLING F E ATURE
A BEAUTIFUL REVOLUTION
by Katrina Atkin
“The only thing constant in life is change.” Francois de la Rochefoucauld
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n the last week I encountered several people who were going through remarkable changes in their lives, and
I was struck by an intriguing common thread. They were all successfully working through various issues such as lupus, depression, adrenal fatigue syndrome, Crohn’s disease, sexual trauma, domestic violence and obesity, yet there was an invisible lock holding each person to a core insecurity, ‘fear of death’. Then I recognised this was common to almost every person I had ever met.
Our deepest fear The fear of death is not necessarily the
fear of leaving this planet but rather equates to a sense of death of the known self. Our deepest hurts are created by
48 JULY 2016
revolution noun rev·o·lu·tion \,re-və-'lü-shən\
1. a sudden, radical, or complete change 2. a fundamental change in government; 3. an activity or movement designed to effect fundamental changes 4. a fundamental change in the way of thinking about or visualising something : a change of paradigm
decisions we make about ourselves and how the world works in the face of not gaining significance or security through our human connections. Our known or false self is created over
many years to ensure the survival of the body. Our authentic essence becomes locked away with our deepest life gifts and purpose never truly revealed. We are afraid to finally lay to rest our old survival armour in the fear we will never be accepted or valued for our true beauty and magnificence.
Losing our authentic self Experiences occur in our childhood
which create deeply embedded patterns of abandonment and rejection. Simply stated we feel misunderstood, unworthy, unloved and not good enough. Ever had the thought, “I’ll never
get that – I’m not good enough”? It is common to create a sense of self based on lies because in childhood we do not have the ability to separate the concepts of our self-worth and the trauma of the event. A traumatic event can be as
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