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8. Listen to us reflectively. Beyond simply listening, you can practice ref lective listening with children. This means listening for the core message in what a child is saying. When you ‘hear’ the core message (by reading between the lines), repeat it back, perhaps in a tenuous fashion (such as in a question), to see if you have it right. If your intention is to truly understand the child, you cannot go wrong. Even if you do get it wrong, your positive intention
will shine through, and the child is likely to correct you. For example, if your ten-year-old comes home from school, throws his backpack on the floor, and screams, ‘I hate it here! I was all by myself at lunch again!’, then – after taking a deep breath or two – you could say, ‘Wow. You are furious with this place and with us. You sound like you want to go back home right now!’ A ten-year-old’s anger may melt into tears at that
moment, and you will be able to console him. The art of ref lective listening entails remembering that listening well does not mean agreeing. See Faber and Mazlish’s How To Talk So Children Will Listen and Listen So Children Will Talk for more tips on listening well.
9. Help us pick ‘pivotal’ people. Human beings don’t exist in vacuums. We need to be seen and recognised to feel real and safe. If this were not true, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram would not have drawn the billions of devotees they have.
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If mobility causes your child to feel their identity has
been erased, this may be as a result of the loss of trusted audiences. The trick is to maintain ‘pivotal people’ who aren’t moving; people who are staying put and are a trusted audience, around whom your child’s story can rotate. Invite friends, aunts, uncles, coaches, close
neighbours – anyone who is not moving and who has been important in your child’s life – to be a ‘pivotal person’ for them. Ask these people to drop a line once a month, for six months or so, just to check in on your child, to ask how things are going, and to hear about the new life.
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