Healthy Living COMMENTARY
Know Your Limits I
DOCTOR LAURA
BY DR. LAURA SCHLESSINGER 5 MINUTES WITH MINUTESWITH
T IS WAY TOO EASY TO GET overwhelmed — even by elements in your life you enjoy, like family, work, and hobbies. We tend to often underestimate the impact of multiple investments of our emotion, time, effort, concentration, and energy. Contrary to anything you may have heard, human beings do have limits! You defi nitely cannot give 100 percent to everything without a crash: including feeling tired, angry sad, or impatient. When people
come to me for help, they simply don’t want to admit they are overwhelmed. They see this as some kind of weakness and feel ashamed and
frustrated. They simply want to be able to do everything.
That passion comes from a fear of feeling undervalued to others if they can’t pull it off. And they have the right to feel they let others down because in their mini- universe, things just have to get done and get done now.
It appears that people dread — absolutely dread — the notion of listing priorities, making choices, and taking things off their plate. Ouch! To so many it feels like abject failure.
I believe it is a failure to not acknowledge limits — we all have them. Not because we are damaged or incompetent, but simply because we are human. As such, 100 percent is all each of us has; not multiples of such. That means that you actually have to make
choices after listing your priorities. If you have small children, their welfare is No. 1, which has always meant to me that you need to fi nd a way to work even your job around their needs, for them to be parented hands-on by Mommy and/or Daddy.
The way I help people make decisions on my daily radio program is to almost literally force them to tell me what is the most important issue in their lives. Believe you me, it becomes easier to make deletions and alterations once you acknowledge what is the center point of your concern. If it is to be involved with extended family, then you shouldn’t go off with someone you just met on the Internet some 1,000 miles away from home — no matter how great a fantasy it all seems to be. If you want to take that big job risk, fi rst comes the security of your family — then you organize what you have to do. People with conscience and character have an easier time at this than those who are immature or narcissistic; these conditions lead to more of a sense of entitlement and impulsiveness, which usually leads people to get overwhelmed by losses caused by their poor decisions as well as the disappointment of fantasies not being met.
Being overwhelmed means cutting back, making choices, and dividing up that 100 percent in the most productive and honorable way. It does not mean getting some “booty” on the side or indulging in alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling, and so forth to medicate the confusion and frustration. It’s all about priorities.
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