always a reason why. If you really want to be with this person until you’re both 90, then both of you need to make sure that you acknowledge each other’s desires. The key is to bring out the best in each other and as long as you do that you can go the distance.
Make sure you do little things for each
other. Make them a cup of tea, or rub their feet, or buy them chocolates out of the blue.
If you want someone to do something for
you - do it for them. Show them your love. You’re not ‘working’ at your relationship, so to speak, as work can have a heavy connotation for some people. I like to say that you’re ‘playing’ at it. So keep your life varied. Go to a tango class together. Watch movies in bed. Go for a bike ride to the beach. That's the sort of playfulness that will keep you together.
Remember, you can change someone's
behaviour, like asking them to put the toilet seat down or getting them to wash up a bit more, that sort of thing, but you cannot change who they are. What you've got is what you've got.
Make the right choice. My advice is to
go for someone who's really sweet natured, open to growing, with a wicked sense of humour. Remember what I said about the bigger picture? Later in life, you'll appreciate those qualities. And obviously, going for someone you're sexually attracted to is important, too - but make sure kind, open and fun are on the list! You will go through ups and downs together and a good sense of humour can really pull you through!
To sum up - enjoy life and find someone
to enjoy it with. It really is that simple! If you want to find out more about Sophie Keller and the 'How Happy is' books & brand go to www.howhappyis.com
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