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5 MINUTES
with DR. LAURA SCHLESSINGER
Odd-Even Sex Solution W
ow! i recently had a surprisingly exciting hour on my show talking to
husbands and wives about scheduling sex as a way of dealing with growing differences in libido as people age. Men often deal with prostate and
other medical issues that may result in erectile dysfunction. Women often deal with hormonal
changes in libido after childbirth and menopause. Everybody may deal with a
waning sex drive and interest dependent upon stressors (jobs, illness, extended family drama and trauma, lack of maintaining a healthy body: sleep, nutrition, and exercise) and basic relationship problems. The kickoff for this was
an email from a listener: “My sex drive has dwindled and I came up with a perfect solution and thought I would share. My husband is a manly man and is as strong as an ox, I got really tired of saying ‘no.’ “So, the solution? He has the
opportunity to have sex every other day. He got to choose even or odd days. He chose even (I’m sure because he is OCD, lol). “My days are odd. If you are not
home on your day or choose to not have time on your day, you miss out. “This has worked out very well. It’s
not a crazy passionate lovemaking, and it doesn’t take long, but he is always so sweet and nice during sex and I do not feel that it is a chore. “I know that he needs this release
of energy, and the closeness, and I felt it was my duty as a wife to help him be the man he is. I have not had to stay that stupid word ‘no’ to him since we started this a few years ago. His moods on the days we do have sex are always better.
Mutual support and loving compassion are an essential part of a good and lasting marital relationship.
say that hearing her letter made them feel guilty that they were not being as thoughtful with their husbands with respect to marital lovemaking. A number of men called in to say
how jealous they felt, as they cannot get their wives to enjoy lovemaking and playful sex at all. Seriously sad. The men were staying in the marriages because of kids, finances, and because they still had feelings of
“If I am sick or there is something
going on physically with me he has no problem skipping his day, and he’s even skipped a day himself a few times for no apparent reason. So, it is not set in stone and maybe someday I will get a libido back and maybe have sex on my day, lol.” Frankly, I would have guessed a
lot of angry women would be calling in to respond to her “solution to mismatched libidos”; didn’t happen. Instead, a number of wives called to
love. However, they were miserable imagining the rest of their lives without passion. Then a number of wives called
in to chastise other women for not putting effort into the passionate, sensual, loving, physical part of marital vows and expectations. One woman pointed out that sometimes the husbands don’t put the effort into being good lovers: taking time to seduce their wives with daily sweetness and then stimulating foreplay — making sure their wives climax first (and maybe multiple times). Perfectly reasonable critique. There are medicines and other
solutions for ED and vaginal dryness. It all requires the spouses to have great communication without recrimination. Mutual support and loving compassion are an essential part of a good and lasting marital relationship. I was delighted when
letters starting coming in telling me how, based on that hour on my program, conversation started up that night! One woman wrote that
the conversation she had with her husband was the best,
most open and honest talk they had ever had about anything. And now . . . they were playing around with ideas on how to reconstitute passion and sexual intimacy back into their marriage. Since I believe that physical
touch, closeness, and sexual intimacy are an essential part of a marital relationship, this made me very happy! Finally, one man called to say
that at their age, having intercourse is just too difficult, but every night they go to bed naked and caress and cuddle. Beautiful.
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