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When parents undertake a daily practice of


mindfulness and awareness, they begin to extricate themselves from blind


reactivity to see how every


problem with their children is a call to their own awakening.


activities and subjected to numerous lessons, how can young people hope to recognize their authentic voice amid the din of all this “doing”?


How do children benefit from conscious or awakened parenting?


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ne of the greatest challenges parents face is connecting with their children in deep and


meaningful ways. The aim of awakened families is to raise strong and emotion- ally resilient children. Parenting expert and clinical psy-


chologist Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., author of The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children and The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting, offers mindful approaches to benefit the family—and the communi- ty. Via her practice in New York City, ap- pearances on Oprah and online courses, Tsabary provides awareness, skills and strategies to revolutionize families. She posts videos and blogs at DrShefali.com.


How do parents know if they’re on the right track? To be awakened or conscious means to realize that we carry emotional bag- gage and conditioning from childhood that affects our relationship with our children. Our old ways of thinking and being from our own childhood shape


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the manner in which we react and interact today. Awakened parents are constantly


evolving into their truest and most authentic selves. When parents under- take a daily practice of mindfulness and awareness, they begin to extricate them- selves from blind reactivity to see how every problem with their children is a call to their own awakening. Parents will know they are on the right track because they will connect more with their chil- dren, empowering them to think and live autonomously—separate from a parent’s fantasies and expectations.


How can each family member connect with their true self? Parents need to understand that the path to creating a connected relationship with their children is to first create one with themselves. Realizing this, they consider their own inner growth a high priority. Children need to learn who they


are and what they really enjoy. Parents can help by allowing children to just sit by themselves. If inundated with


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Conscious parenting mandates that we place the task of connecting with our children front and center, especially before correcting them. Admonish- ing and punishing them becomes secondary to the main imperative of conscious connection. It’s crucial we realize we aren’t raising a “mini-me”, but a spirit throbbing with its own signature. Thus, it’s vital to separate in our mind who we are from who each child is. Children aren’t ours to possess or own in any way. When we know this in the depths of our soul, we tailor their raising to their needs, rather than molding them to fit our needs. Children raised in this way grow up to be fearless and infinitely resilient, knowing that their purpose in life is to live in their most authentic and true way. Conflicts decrease and conscious, connected communication increases.


What can parents do when they fall back into old patterns, shaming children or doing other things that create distance?


When this happens, parents need to sit with themselves and look deeply within, asking: “What is it about me that feels the need to deride, scorn and shame my children?” In such introspec- tion, they might discover triggers from old wounds that have nothing to do with a child’s behavior. When they can see the internal link, they can begin to make the transformations they need. As a parent, I have learned that my


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