HOW TO FIND LOVE THIS VALENTINE’S DAY
You might be reading this article hoping to find a list of excellent venues to meet other singles, style tips to attract a partner or a top 10 list of things you need to say to make the other person interested. What if I told you there was only one thing required to find love this Valentine’s Day? The one core designed to unlock a lifetime of possible love and happiness?
That key is self-love. The age-old adage, “you can’t love someone else until you love yourself” has withstood the test of time for a reason. There is truth in that statement. If you are not confident and comfortable with who you are as an individual and embrace those qualities that make you unique or those traits you value in life, how can you expect someone else to do the same? The first step on the road to finding love is finding you.
Take a moment to think about what makes you who you are. What are the traits that you value about yourself and what are the traits that you would value in your potential partner? Moreover, what is the person you want to become? As you begin this new year, what are your intentions for it? How do you want to achieve the best version of yourself: in mind, body, and spirit? Maybe it’s by eating cleaner, meditating during a traffic jam, watching more of those Netflix documentaries. Besides, the standards that you set for yourself and what you value in life should not be compromised by your potential partner, rather, you should find someone who supplements who you are as a person.
The concept of self-love was exhibited by St. Valentine himself. Unwilling to compromise his Christian beliefs and convert to paganism they executed him under the reign of Roman Emperor Claudius II. He was steadfast in his values and even performed feats of healing towards his enemies up until his death.
St. Valentine, the legend, is said to have performed secret wedding ceremonies for soldiers and their wives, as well as sent letters with paper hearts to the soldiers to remind them of their commitment to their spouse and God. The idea of placing value in love and who you love is a commitment that begins with the self.
Self-worth is the crux of self-love. If you don’t appreciate yourself, other people can’t be expected to value you in return. Likewise, the effect you project sends a message to those around you.
We all have that friend who complains about being single. Do they take the time to reflect on themselves? Are they taking steps to become a better version of themselves? They
might complain about their job, their weight, their situation; however, are they making positive changes toward changing those things in life?
They want to find the perfect match, yet they maintain certain repeat negative behaviors that don’t allow for the development of any decent relationship. Complacency creates cracks in the path towards love. And instead of finding a person to fill those voids, perhaps the better alternative is in recognizing those patterns which facilitate an incomplete self. A balanced person, one that is honest with themselves, will attract someone who amplifies their self-worth and values them as an individual. Maybe this Valentine’s Day, the first letter of love you should write is to yourself.
Arlene Vasquez is a leader in the Matchmaking Industry, with some fairy tale successes to her name. Master Certified at the Matchmak- ing Institute in New York City, where she is now the Chief Executive Officer, Arlene founded AVConnexions to offer top-level matchmak- ing, singles events, dating and relationship coaching for professionals. Her keen intuition, combined with adept recruitment skills, has won Arlene widespread acclaim for her matchmaking and relationship coaching across multiple channels.
www.AVConnexions.com
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