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technique Identity Relief Process


The process uses a blend of EFT and NLP to release the identity beliefs. It is divided into two parts:


1. a set-up process and


2. the belief releasing part. Set-up


Ask the person to remember a time when they felt compassionate. Any exam- ple of compassion to a living being will do - people, children, pets or animals. Invite them to connect again to that experi- ence of compassion and feel it fully. Give them the time to sink into that memory and really feel it. Ask them to extend their dominant hand palm up. Ask them to imagine that feeling of compassion flowing down through their arm to form a ‘bubble or globe of compassion’ resting on their out-stretched hand. Ask them what colour that bubble is. When they have a good sense of that ‘bubble of com- passion’, suggest that they leave it ‘hanging in space for later’ as they take their hand away.


Process


Have them recall one of their identity beliefs ‘I am …’ e.g. ‘I am scared’


Ask them to be with that thought for a little while, then give it a score on a scale from 0 – 10 where 0 means the belief has no validity or intensity and 10 means that it is very intense or true.


Then with gentle curiosity ask them “How old is the ‘I’ in ‘I am …’ “? Make your voice tone gentle and enquiring, allow them to guess if they need to and acknowledge whatever answer comes back – it may be a surprise to them“How old is the ‘I’ in ‘I am scared’?” …. Very young … 4 years old I think.


Ask them to imagine that younger self up on a movie screen in front of them. Point in front of them to help them imagine the screen.“Imagine that 4 year old you, over there on a screen”


Ask them what is going on around them and what is going on inside them up


there in that situation back then. Give them time to process that information. If they have trouble answering this ques- tion suggest that they ask that younger self how they are feeling“What is going on for that younger you? How are they feeling?”


Start tapping for that younger self on the screen using the following set-up statement three times.“Even though s/ he is [feeling], I accept him/her and how he/she feels”“Even though she is feeling scared, I accept her and how she feels”


Tap on the meridian points with the reminder phrase “S/he is [feeling]”“She is scared”


Continue tapping until that feeling is greatly subsided. Repeat for any other un- pleasant feelings to do with that situation until that ‘other you’ is completely calm.


Invite them to remember the bubble of compassion hanging just where they left it. Suggest that they send that bubble of compassion up into the screen so it completely surrounds that ‘younger self’. Have them watch what happens when the compassion surrounds that younger version of themselves. Give them enough time to process that experience. Ask them to nod their head when they have finished.


Invite them to bring back that younger self from the screen into themselves. They may stretch out their hands to wel- come that self back or use some other metaphorical way of bringing in that younger self into their body.


When that younger self is ‘inside’ ask them to invite it to grow up to their cur- rent age taking advantage of all their later experience and wisdom. Give them time to do this. Ask them to nod when they have finished.


When they are completely settled. Ask them to say out loud the original belief statement (I am …) and notice what effect that has on them now. If there is still a charge on the belief ask them again “How old is the ‘I’ in that belief” and repeat the process.


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The advantage of asking the “I” in “I am scared” is that it takes you directly back to the core event. It requires much less detective work than might be needed if you were doing it indirectly.


Once the original event has been found, the charge on it can be reduced by tap- ping for that ‘other’ you, in EFT parlance it’s a variation on the Tearless Trauma Technique. Being able to see from the outside of our younger experience seems to give us the ability to notice feelings and interactions that are not available when tapping on the memory from the inside as in the Movie Technique.


When the situation is quietened the ‘application’ of compassion adds an extra dimension of comfort and soothing to that younger self. These unhelpful identity beliefs are often formed in situations where we are alone or being abused so there is no comfort available at that time. Adding compassion now seems to soften the experience and give a flavour of being cared for even after the length of time since the event.


Inviting the younger you back in is simply to re-integrate what we put out there on the screen at the start of the process and to al- low the ‘I’ that ran the belief to update its knowledge and skills. We learned these beliefs at an early age when we had few resources and little experience to go on invit- ing that ‘I’ to grow up to your current age allows the part of us that is running that response to take advantage of all the skills and understandings you’ve had since.


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