hints & tips
Dave goes on to outline suggestions when composing the email: Q. Why is the title of my email important? A. You need to catch people’s attention to get them to read it, so you might try something like “Enquiry from ....... EFT swap-list”. Q. What if I get no replies to my email?
A. It’s not a big deal. It is quite possible that you will get no replies from some of your mailings. If you have no replies after one week, it doesn’t matter, send out some more emails!
Q. I’m worried that someone might get dependent on me or take advantage?
A. No one is obligated to be someone else’s therapist. You can structure things from the beginning to ensure that this remains true for you. Have an initial telephone discussion to find if you both fit each other’s requirements.
JANE: As I didn’t know if some of the names at the top of the list had come from my course I tailored each message individually, and the tone depended on the depth of exchange at the time. I then advised what I wanted from the arrangement which, for me, was a trial of one-each-way equal swaps to see how we worked together (as recommended here):
DAVE: If so, agree one session only, “to see how things go” as you have already suggested
JANE: Something not covered by Dave is the challenge of agreeing a mutual window when both parties can meet ... a challenge in its own right. I got 6-responses so according to Dave’s advice it seemed like a good start. However at this stage only two have devel- oped into reliable arrangements, two are looking like strong possibilities and the other two less so.
DAVE: In your email. Follow this session up by email a couple of days later, asking for feedback. If they respond favourably and you wish to continue with more sessions, suggest that you agree to do N more sessions. (Where N is a number you are happy to commit to).
Here Dave is recommending the idea of feedback and I think that’s a good idea although I’ve not used it yet, its something I’ll prob- ably develop in the future. Then he recommends reviewing the situation again after the agreed number of sessions is completed.
JANE: As yet my arrangements are ongoing and think the benefits of practising the techniques on others, combined with working on personal and genuine issues is developing organically anyway. And generally we check in with one another while on the call to make a follow-up.
Then Dave goes on to answer any further concerns people may have:
Q. I’m worried that I’m not good enough to do EFT with strangers? A. Make this worry the subject of your first swap session! If you are on the swap-list then you will have already learned more than enough EFT to be effective: re-read your course notes if you doubt this. Remember the basic principle of EFT that you use the client’s own words. If all you simply do is act as a “mirror” to your client then you are doing them a very useful serv- ice. (In fact I think that acting as a perfectly clear flat mirror is often one of the best things that you can do).
Q. What is Skype?
A. Skype is an internet application that allows you to talk from one PC to another anywhere in the world for free. The software is available for free download here:-
Q.
http://www.skype.com/intl/en-gb/
A. (You can also use Skype to dial landline telephones or mobiles but that is not free, though it may be cheaper than the phone). To use Skype you will need both a microphone and speakers, but a headset is recommended as it leaves your hands free (to tap on yourself or make notes) and improves sound quality.
Do you have a therapy practice tip which you use that could benefit other practitioners? To submit your hints & tips please email us at
comms@aamet.com
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