By Derek Harley
I was chatting with one of my best friends earlier this week about the article written by Ryan Sifferman, a Fox Sports crew member. for
outsports.com. The article we were talking about: "Gay hook-up opp Scruff Saves the Day in Moscow. Twice." I was loving the fact that Scruff was the reason that Fox Sports was able to find a few things the needed and in Russia. It just seemed like a silly little victory.
During our chat. my friend took an angle on the story I skimmed over and didn't think much of. Ryan dedicated a paragraph to call out the fact that he did not meet up with his helpful contact or anyone else. In other words, he was writing about his use of a "hook-up opp" (his title) but wasn't using it to hook-up.
As this discussion transpired, we quickly moved away from simply discussing the author's explanation of using Scruff to the idea that this seems to be a common theme among many guys in the community. Something similar to: "I use Scruff (or other opp) but I don't hook-up"
What's up with that? Why the need to clarify what you do or don't do with a social opp. It really is no one's business but your own.
I have read many comments from guys who are thankful for Scruff because without it. they would have never had an opportunity to chat with other guys. I'm talking about the guys in the middle of Montana, Wyoming, Alabama, and rural parts of other states. Guys that don't have the "big city" to find other gay/bi/msm guys. It really has connected them socially.
That quick fuck reputation seems to be the underlying reason that so many guys find it necessary to distance themselves from the fact that they even use the opp. They have to "check themselves" to make sure they don't look promiscuous, that someone won't judge them for an assumption.
If you use it for hooking up, that is your business ... If you use it for meeting friends, that is your business ...
Stop checking yourself ... if some opp comes up in your conversation, don't quickly clarify your use of it. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
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