GOLF
The first port of call is when an emotion such as loneliness comes up, it is important to
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understand it and not hide away from it.
Realise the cause of the feeling and what you can do to help it in the
future. I always look to sport to build myself into a new area and this has been my way of dealing with the cause
change when you are no longer in the same place, but you find new ways of staying in touch with people from afar.
Having spent many years away from your home, how does it make you feel going home?
One thing everyone should know is that once you leave, the idea of home is never really the same again. You're now split across two worlds or three/four in my case. There's more than one place where you understand how things work and there's more than one place with things to miss. It's also true that you don't know what you've got until it's gone. When you move abroad and start settling into a new area, you soon start to appreciate things at home that were part of normal life at that time.
What is the main thing working in different countries has taught you?
The biggest lesson has been to never forget the people you meet. The people that are around you in both life and work are the most important thing, no matter where you are. We could all learn a lot more by
experiencing the ways that different cultures approach work. Even across the short span of area that I have travelled, there are some huge differences. Each of these have both positives and negatives, for me it's about pulling the positives from all of them. Ultimately, you learn that we are all human, we all go about our daily lives in much the same ways with meals, work and circles of friends. Sure, there are cultural differences but, beneath it all, we're all human.
What is the hardest thing about living abroad?
Even though you can make it into one long, grand adventure, living abroad is not a permanent vacation. You still have to do those things you did at home, like work and having a social life, except you’re in another country. It’s hard to truly travel solo because it's so easy to make friends on the road, but let me tell you, it's harder to move abroad solo; it can be lonely.
The major positive to all this is, you'll learn how to cope better with your emotions and let somethings go. I don't believe the idea of moving abroad to find yourself. You might just learn more about yourself, faster. You’ll learn that you’re not the same person to everyone you meet, and there are different sides of your personality that emerge in different situations. You’ll also learn how you personally cope with different situations and, if you don’t like it, you’ll be able to work on changing it. You don’t grow when you’re in your comfort zone and moving abroad for me is one of the hardest tests.
Do you have any specific things that you implement?
I think everyone has different triggers, but there are plenty that are common amongst us all. It has been a learning curve and I continue to learn about what triggers my emotions and how to accept them and deal with them.
The first port of call is when an emotion such as loneliness comes up, it is important to understand it and not hide away from it.
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