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s it just me or are many "losing their minds" or just flat out "losing it" these days? Why are
we all so on edge? Hmmm... let's see... could it be the 55 giant glass balls that we are all confidently trying to juggle? One person drops one or fails to follow through and there is this domino effect - or rather, it becomes contagious and that will rub off on your confidence.
But, when the voices in your head begin to run away with you, these maneuvers will help you tell the voices to chill out while you get your sanity, composure and confidence back. When things go wrong for you or when the world around you seems out of control or when others get in the way of our own success or happiness, we stress. We might even lose our cool, our confidence and sometimes our mind, otherwise known as our sanity.
Without a clear mind and a dose of Contagious Confidence,™ you will also lose the ability to make good decisions, which can result in overeating, impulse buying, or snapping at people. You may also feel less creative, which makes it hard to do problem solving, conflict resolution, and negotiation. Your perspective, such as the inaccurate notion that you are alone, no one understands, no one likes you and you should just go and eat worms may also be affected! There is a reason that “worm diets” have not become a craze yet! Put at least three of these tips into action today and regain your Contagious Confidence™ while watching your sanity soar to new heights!
1. Ask for help even if you feel like you might look silly, stupid, dumb, or less than absolutely strong and perfect. (trust me on this one)
2. Hire a coach for anything that you have been unable to work on or resolve for more than 24 months.
3. Get Rest... plenty of rest, even when you don't have time and world says "go, go, go!" A ten minute nap qualifies as rest. Take one... or two..
4. “Awfulize” only at scheduled times and only for brief periods of time. “Awfulizing” is anything that begins with "Oh, my gosh, what if..."
5. Avoid the temptation to trust your first perception when you are stressed out.
6. Realize and accept that not all people are as smart as you are in all areas (and encourage them to realize the same - yep that may mean they accept your shortcomings, too).
7. Give different (as opposed to difficult) people the benefit of the doubt more than once.
8. Moderate your self-talk and say good things as often as you can - even when things look bleak.
9. Remove yourself from negativity - walk away from the news, excuse yourself from conversations held by a friend talking like “Eyeore.”
10. Celebrate the very tiniest of accomplishments - you didn't buy that cookie at lunch, you let someone through in traffic - work with me here!
11. Confidently assert yourself and share your opinions, without riding your broom into the room.
12. Spend your time being fascinated by life and what happens in it, instead of being frustrated by the multitude of things out of your control.
13. Lose the word "WHY" in your vocabulary and replace it with "Help me Understand" or "How" or "When" or "What's next" or "Next time."
And just for giggles, one more to boost your Contagious Confidence™ and stay sane in a world that often appears to have gone mad....
14. Walk around with a “Cheshire Cat sized” grin on your face and when people ask you what you are so excited about... just mysteriously and with a bit of flair say "Oh... nothing." You will be amazed at how people will be attracted to that and how many times they will ask you to "go on... tell me!"
So does this mean that people really do want to be happy after all? Even the complainers who constantly tell you how rough things are? Could be… but most important of all is your own sense of sanity and confidence. Keep yours intact and stay contagious!
ADistinctive style mAgAzine 61
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