ENDNOTE
Congruency
in NLP (Am I lost)?
By Kevin Laye
A
Trainer once told me that the map is not the territory, and You see, to me, in my map of the Well that’s his (or her) particular
w
hen the co-creators of we each have our own map, and world, and my understanding map, and I should and will
NLP were asked what that it is vital to respect someone of congruency, that is not very respect it, though it differs from
NLP was, Richard Bandler, else’s map to enable ourselves to congruent. my own opinion. That is my
one of the co-creators stated build rapport and communicate So, if we may, back to “Wanton personal congruent view, which
that it was a state of “wanton effectively. So why then, sorry, I curiosity”. I also teach other like my opinion may be wrong, or
curiosity”. I like that response, know in NLP we never ask why... therapy modalities and processes right. These thoughts (and that is
but it makes me curious. Curious I would like to know specifically that can affect rapid change work, all they are) are my map, and if
about something people bang how we know not to do that one example being Meridian it doesn’t match your map then
on a lot about in the NLP circles though, and according to whom Therapy and I have often noticed that’s okay. I just implore you to
and that’s congruency. I am sure it should not be asked. Anyway, when these are discussed, again think for a moment and notice. If
also, we have all heard of, or have why then have I witnessed both as often with Trainers who should this article is deemed provocative,
been taught, the presuppositions a Trainer myself and as a former know better and be more open or you think I am lost, then why
of NLP, and curiously when director of the old Association for to new things which work, do you think that? (Yes I know I
asked about this, on a training ANLP (many moons ago) some these non-NLP techniques are used the ‘w’ word again). Keep
I did with him, the other co- very heated and often vehement often dismissed, rather than your answers in mind. NLP is
creator said quite emphatically examples of a lack of this ability being integrated and creating an awesome tool to have in a
“there are no presuppositions of to respect another’s map. Often to the ‘wanton curiosity’ to model toolbox. How much better can it
NLP”. Curious... yes? So let me the point of total dismissal of the them and explore possibilities. be? I have a real ‘wanton curiosity
look at some of the nonexistent opposing point of view, and done I actually had one well known to find out’.
presuppositions and see how often by people who according to trainer recently dismiss Meridian Oh, and finally. I am not lost...
they fit together. We are taught their position should know better. Therapy as ‘collapsing anchors’. ‘I am exploring’…
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