SCHOOL’S OUT
PTA MUMS ARE SO CLIQUEY
They’re all SAHMs
(stay-at-home mums) who get the validation from the PTA they used to get from work
WHAT’S THE POINT OF PTAs?
I hear horror stories about the bossy
Avoid. Avoid.
Avoid. Heinous baggages all
Parents to avoid?
PTA parents get a bad rep online but it’s time we changed the story, says Daniel Etherington
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f you spend time on social media and online forums, it’s highly likely you will come across videos and discussions where PTA
parents are stereotyped and criticised. Recently, PTA chair Lucy Simmers drew my attention to a video in which being a class representative and an active PTA member was described as a ‘red fl ag’. Just read the quotes at the top of this page – they all refl ect real online comments. Thankfully, a rational and sensible
theme runs through most of the conversations. Mumsnet’s posts under the heading Am I Being Unreasonable generally also highlight the good PTAs do. When questioned about the ‘red fl ag’ remark, the social media infl uencer who created the video confessed it was ‘just for comedic effect’. Maybe so, but dealing with these kinds of comments can be tough. So how do you cope with it?
Hold your head high The best defence is to stay positive
and maintain a sense of humour. My wife (our PTA fundraiser) and I fi nd
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the TV show Motherland – which follows a group of adults navigating parenthood – helps us see the funny side. Lines such as: ‘I really want to make sure we don’t do the same old cake sale crap this year.’ (Season one, episode two, ‘Auction of Promises’) aren’t offensive. Laugh off the stereotype if you can!
Challenge the myths PTA volunteers and members aren’t
all stay-at-home mums, bitchy, bossy or ‘baggage’. Some of us are working dads! Moreover, we’re ordinary members of the school community with a range of other commitments who see value in helping out. Contrary to the online suggestion that PTA parents are constantly on the lookout for volunteers, it’s good to remind people they don’t have to sign up for anything; they’re not joining a cult; they can just dip in and out when they have time. ‘Just be yourself and be as approachable as you are,’ says Friends chair Gemma Rowlands. ‘I explain to people that an hour of help now and then is actually okay.’
The PTA can offer a social
experience, not just through organising events but because of the camaraderie that comes with being involved. Emma Richardson, former lead fundraiser, says: ‘I have made some great friends through the PTA and have had a few experiences where I really felt like I was in an episode of Motherland.’ PTA parents act as role models for
their own children. ‘I will always remember how much my own kids are proud that I show up and get involved,’ says co-chair Steffi Edwards. ‘I care much less about being “that mum” because it’s the kids we do it for at the end of the day.’
A new narrative The PTA’s hard work helps provide
better facilities and equipment for the children, enhancing their overall learning experience – let’s hear more about the Parents Taking Action or the People That Achieve. ‘We’re there to help the children, and the money we make helps the school,’ says Liesl Weir, who runs her PTA’s nearly new uniform sales. ‘Don’t let it get you down!’
committee members
I only ever hear from them when they’re asking for money
I DON’T WANT TO BE
‘THAT MUM’
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