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support your decision. If you want to
Make changes in your environment to
not change so easily and quickly. For
must be affirmed that they do
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lose weight, don’t buy the little treats
example, many people are aware that
You are very
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that will tempt you. Reward yourself for
they need to exercise, eat better and do
motivated and finally ready to change.
small advances. You did your
their accounting on time, but getting
You have a plan: you set a date, place
accounting on time? Go see a good
started is another matter. There are
and schedule, and you have just the
movie, take some time to relax or go see
sometimes very large gaps between our
right means. In this phase, you must
a friend.
intentions and our actions.
have confidence in yourself and in the
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measures that you are going to take. It phase is one during which you can
The maintenance or adjustment
AINTENANCE
harmless, like leaving our shoes lying
Although some bad habits are fairly
is better to have several strategies revise your objectives, define new
around, others may lead to serious
instead of only one. Changing is far phases and try out new strategies. It
personal, family or business
from easy. You will probably experience took you years to acquire some of your
consequences. Changing our habits
anxiety and frustration. They are often habits, so be realistic and give yourself
does not happen overnight. It is a
the price to pay for breaking old habits. some time to develop new ones.
process comprised of well-established
Surround yourself with people who can Remember the reasons behind the
phases.
support you. changes you've made and the benefits of
those changes. Finally, remember that
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4. Setbacks
changing bad habits is hard, but
The first phase is avoidance or denial.
RE-INTENTION
to change. Visualize yourself as having
Remember the reasons why you want
keeping them can be even harder.
Despite some clues, we don't recognize
obtained the desired result, and sense
our problem or we even blame it on
the emotions associated with that
someone else or society.
change. Set yourself a reasonable
with theCanadian Farm Business
— Pierrette Desrosiers is a columnist
questions: do I always seem to be
In this phase, ask yourself these
repeating the same mistakes? Do people
always seem to be criticizing me for
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some fact or behaviour? Does it seem as
though I am not progressing toward my
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career and life objectives? Discuss these
questions with a friend or loved one
to Orchards & V ineyards
who will be able to confront you in a
friendly way.
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