Domestic violence and abuse can happen
to anyone, yet the problem is often over- looked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship are the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the follow- ing warning signs and descriptions of abuse, reach out. There is help available. This list was put together by survivors of
domestic violence who reflected on the early phases of the battering relationship and iden- tified some of the early warning signs of abusers.
Someone who: Wants to move too quickly into the rela- tionship. Does not honor your boundaries. Is excessively jealous and accuses you of having affairs. Wants to know where you are all of the time and frequently calls, emails and texts you throughout the day. Criticizes you or puts you down; most commonly tells you that you are "crazy," "stupid" and/or "fat," or that no one would ever want or love you. Says one thing and does another. Takes no responsibility for their behavior and blames others. Has a history of battering. Blames the entire failure of previous rela- tionships on their partner; for example, "My ex was a total bitch." Grew up in an abusive or violent home. Insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family. Seems "too good to be true." Insists that you stop participating in lei- sure interests.
27
Rages out of control and is impulsive. Pay attention to the “red flags “and trust your instincts. Survivors of domestic violence frequently
report that their instincts told them that there was something wrong early on but they disregarded the warning signs and didn’t know that these signs were indicative of an abusive relationship. Always take time to get to know a poten-
tial partner and watch for patterns of behav- ior in a variety of settings. Keeping in touch with your support system and participating in good self-care can lower your risk of being involved in an abusive relationship.
Source:
nnedv.org
Page 1 |
Page 2 |
Page 3 |
Page 4 |
Page 5 |
Page 6 |
Page 7 |
Page 8 |
Page 9 |
Page 10 |
Page 11 |
Page 12 |
Page 13 |
Page 14 |
Page 15 |
Page 16 |
Page 17 |
Page 18 |
Page 19 |
Page 20 |
Page 21 |
Page 22 |
Page 23 |
Page 24 |
Page 25 |
Page 26 |
Page 27 |
Page 28 |
Page 29 |
Page 30 |
Page 31 |
Page 32 |
Page 33 |
Page 34 |
Page 35 |
Page 36 |
Page 37 |
Page 38 |
Page 39 |
Page 40