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plete those projects. Go If you can trim the golden some questions to ask members also, but you
ahead and make that list. list to just 10%, you are a you that will jar you out can gain control of when
Now, look at the general hero for sure. of the over-careful spiral you use such a powerful
‘yet to do’ list of other nec- Now do some vigorous of attentive concentration tool. You are not a pro,
essary projects. You will activity to expend your that ponders the hardest even though the outcomes
need both of these lists for frustrations, and later on solution, but instead ask often look like it. You can
your fearless look. we can do the next step. yourself, what is the easy allow the amateur level of
Ok, to begin your fear- Now, the Pow-wow. You way to bridge this little performance, not expect-
less perfection look, you can invite your Home puzzle? ing the entire project to
can tip your hat to your Team to the table to dis- Maybe you have an ideal be custom, done in swift
strong work ethic. You cuss the project list. role model for your top- time. You also can’t keep
need to affirm that it is Clearly they have some shelf solutions, your fa- up a full press project
a valuable quality, worth opinions about the matter ther, shop teacher, older workload while also main-
by dr. debi warner
much of the trouble you or would not have made carpenter friend? You can taining your day job and
Contributing Writer
put into it. You also need such comments that you construct a question for other obligations. So, you
to acknowledge that some mentioned. You can ask yourself like, “Is this a will enjoy a number of
Dear Dr. Debi, things you use or pur- if they are interested get- Mr. Andersen solution or off-the-shelf solutions in
My partner says I am a chase are less than per- ting involved in the project is it a ‘git-er-done’ meth- the end, as you sit back
perfectionist and that is fect, and that is all right. lists. You may well see od?” Sometimes asking & enjoy more finished
why my projects pile up. I You might see where I eyes roll. If so, it may be ourselves, or being gen- rooms and family life. And
just do things right. What’s am going here. Set down due to your extra-perfect tly asked such questions your team will learn ac-
the dig? Is it bad to be with some pleasant (non- standards in the past. You can put us back on track ceptance and respect for
careful? alcoholic) beverage and, can stop and ask, them from the endless perfec- your special efforts when
Signed, breathing, enjoy your if they could do it their tion spiral midway in our you apply them.
High Standards pride while looking at the way, or get a little help, projects.
list. Now, comes the chal- might they want to pitch It is important that you Happy Home Team!
Dear Backlog, lenge. in? At least you will know respect your careful inten- Dr. Debi
As amateurs we do try The next step is to take a if there is going to be help tions and that the team
to do our projects as well pen and make stars or use with the projects.
as possible. It is such a a highlighter and pick just You can share that you
nice compliment to hear one out of every three that are willing to reserve your Dr. Debi Warner is the Founder of Renovation Psychology
®
and
someone say that we did a you believe must be done special treatment for the
author of Putting the Home Team to Work, available now online.
pro job! Yet we do need to with your special care- treasure projects and that
Dr. Debi provides advice for greater domestic harmony to folks who
concede that getting high ful approach. It can be
are renovating their home – for True Home Improvement.
you are approaching the
This column is offered for enjoyment and enhancement and is
marks on every project hard to do, making such others with a more ‘git-
not intended to replace your personal medical care.
takes time, since we have a choice, but you can re- er-done’ attitude, but will Photo by Bob Jenks, St. Johnsbury, Vt. Dr. Debi has a con-
to learn so much new assure yourself that you need encouragement to
sultation practice, visiting home sites all over New England from
stuff for each new appli- will still enjoy life even if stay with that tack. Part
her studio in Littleton, NH at the Tannery Marketplace. © 2009
cation. It can be hard to you must use a banister
Renovation Psychology
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of this change in course
Questions are welcome.
move ahead on a long list that is off the rack from is by choice, but there will
of necessary projects if we the supply store rather be need for reinforcement.
use the same comprehen- than turn one yourself. You can ask your team
sive approach each time. You will want to keep your to pop onto the scene
So, what can you do? special list pretty slim, so when you are doing a low-
I take it that you want to you just highlight your priority task and check
keep getting high grades, treasured projects only. in with you. Give them
not so much from others,
but for your own sake.
Trying to Clean Around Clutter?
That is nifty, but appar-
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and perhaps even let go
of some control too. It will
take a few steps but you
can do it. There are parts
you do yourself and other
parts that involve your
Home Team. So let’s get
started.
First, you can look over
what you have done al-
ready and the chores that
remain in order to com-
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