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By Loren Metts
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I realize that Valentine’s Day means Throughout the past 15 years, my of your marriage. Once we decide that
different things to different people, husband and I have been blessed by our relationships are worth protecting
and for many, this holiday is simply a some very wise and timely advice and fighting for, a little extra atten-
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good one to ignore. But as for me and that has made our life together much tion and love-tank maintenance will
countless others, Valentine’s Day is a sweeter. Several months after the birth strengthen our marriages and homes
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great opportunity to reflect upon the of our first child, our marriage was at for the long haul.
unique love we experience within the an all-time low. Some of our greatest
covenant of marriage. marital help came when we were given
jasonsautocare.mechanicnet.com My husband and I will celebrate our a copy of the book The Five Love Lan-
16th wedding anniversary in May. As guages by Gary Chapman.
a young girl and teenager, I remember The book begins by comparing the
daydreaming about my husband, my experience of falling in love to the com-
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wedding day, and about how wonderful mitment of being in love. Long-term
it would feel to be completely known love is not just a warm, fuzzy feeling
by another person. Today, my hus- but is a conscious and committed
Women's & Childrens band is truly my best friend, and I am choice. The overall premise of the
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so thankful for each day of life spent book is to explain our primary need
to have a full emotional “love tank”
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with him. I greatly value our marriage
and want to do everything I can to in our marriages. It also describes how
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Forks of Ivy Plaza 901-6 Old Mars Hill Hwy. In the two years prior to our wedding, them into five love languages, which
our friendship, dating and engagement are the words of affirmation, quality
were incredibly euphoric. But as with time, physical touch, gift giving and
many couples, by the second month of acts of service.
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marriage, the euphoric butterflies had If we express love in a way that our
flown away and the issues of real-life spouse does not understand, then he or
commitment began to settle in. We she may not know that we are express-
realized that our intense pre-wedding ing our love in the first place. The key is
emotions could not carry our relation- for both spouses to learn and speak the
ship for very long. The difficult hurts love language of one another. Within
and challenges we faced were quickly a few weeks of understanding our love
taking a toll on our marriage. languages, there were major improve-
No, we have not celebrated our silver ments in our relationship. I highly
anniversary. I am not a marital coun- recommend this book for anyone
selor nor do I have a perfect marriage. regardless of age or even marital status.
But I do know this: Too often, men Chapman has also written several other
and women who were once very close books addressing the love languages of
and in love, suddenly discover that children, teenagers and singles.
they barely know one another. Their Beyond the wisdom of the love
communication lines have been severed language theory, we have also learned
by the routine stresses of life, and their several other helpful insights over the
disgruntled views of one another have years. Several of those include: Try not
grown larger with time. The days have to go to sleep angry; never leave with
turned into years without either of keys; competition within a marriage
them giving their marriage the atten- will only weaken or kill it; say good
tion it needs and deserves. things about your spouse to others;
Even though we realize that no mar- keep children as the completion of your
riage can be perfect, this should not family and not the center of it; plan
stop us from checking our relationships date nights, communicate openly and
on a regular basis for areas of concern. be willing to ask your spouse, “Am I
How can you expect your car to run meeting your needs?” The list of tune-
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