NOV. 4 - NOV. 10, 2018 6 NENITA P. TAYKO NURSE TALES ntayko@yahoo.com


Grief turns out to be a place none of us know until we reach it…Nor can we know ahead of the fact…the unending absence that follows, the void, the very opposite of meaning, the relentless succession of moments during which we will confrontthe experience of meaninglessness itself.


Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking (October 2005) “Didion’s book is a vivid description of her grief following the sudden death of her 71 year old husband John Gregory Dunne, her close companion for more than 40 years. She finds the experience to be (perhaps thankfully) unlike anything she could have imagined. “ ( M. Shear, A.Ghesquiere & K. Glickman,


Bereavement and Complicated Grief. In Current Psychiatry Reports, November 2013). Grief refers to the psychobiological response to bereavement and may be acute (initial response), integrated (permanent response after adaptation to the loss, wherein satisfaction in ongoing life is renewed); and complicated or prolonged acute grief. Complicated grief is a distinct mental health disorder. Mourning denotes the array of psychological processes set in motion by the loss to facilitate adaptation.


PLAN....FROM P. 3


the alleged gunman, and the driver as Ka Sherwin, and that they were cousins from Guihulngan City and members of the NPA. Sometime last January, Estorco said Mokong and Sherwin told him about their uncle, Rene, who they said was an NPA leader who was framed up by Sestoso and eventually arrested by the Tanjay City Police for illegal possession of firearms and explosives. They claimed they wanted to take revenge against Sestoso, according to Estorco. In his counter-affidavit, Rene, who was also known as Ka Pediong, Ka Jade Hervias, Ka Jury Merecido in the charge sheet, denied all the allegations, contending that Estorco lied and was used by somebody to advance another trump-up charges against him.


used as a decoy by the real culprits in the Sestoso murder in order to hide their guilt or a paid witness by the authorities to cover their inadequacies resolving the case.


PRIEST....FROM P. 2


As to why people make physical contact with the icons of saints, such as wiping their handkerchiefs on the arms and feet, the priest pointed out the Bible story of a woman who suffered from hemorrhage for many years.


Rene also said he has been


Bustamante declared he is not from Guihulngan and he has no relatives there, even the two — Mokong and Sherwin. He added that he even had wanted Sestoso as his defense witness when he was arrested by the military and the police in June 2014 for the death of a certain Narciso Bantoto Jr. After going over the allegations, the prosecutors said documentary evidences and contrasting testimonies of the witnesses showed there was no probable cause to charge Mokong, Sherwin, and Rene in court for the crime of murdering Sestoso.


A study conducted by Holly Prigerson on 233 people who have lost a loved one, most often a spouse, due to natural causes, revealed that yearning and not depression as was previously thought is the dominant feeling through this psychological picture or feeling: “that a part of you is missing and that without this essential piece you won’t be happy.” The results also revealed that yearning peaks about four months and that depression, peaks much later. This study confirmed the “stage


theory” of grief proposed by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in the 1960s which include: disbelief, yearning, anger, depression, and acceptance. Another relevant finding of the study is that it provides a benchmark for how grief changes over time. Hence, those who help treat grief need to focus first on yearning. The study concluded that all of the negative responses are in decline by about six months after a loss. If it lasts beyond six months the bereaved survivor may be referred for treatment for complicated grief. (Michael Conlon, 2007)


Yearning and grief


Some people are yearners, that is, they ache for days and moments that exist only in the past. What is yearning? To yearn, is to “have an intense feeling of longing for something that one has lost or been separated from” (Oxford dictionary). The Germans have a similar word –‘sehnsucht’ which approximates the intense emotional state of yearning experienced after the death of a loved one. O’connor and Sussman (2014) note that “yearning is an emotional state widely experienced in situations involving loss, focused on a desire for a person,


I am an American citizen. I was director for Product Development of AGV Sports Group (www. agvsportsgroup.com) specializing in safety gear for motorcyclists.


I visit Dumaguete regularly, and I have grown increasingly concerned about the enforcement of the helmet law in November.


EULOGY....FROM P. 5


place, or thing that was treasured in the past.” Yearning is a common experience and your feelings towards yearning may be ambivalent or may change over time. However, grief is about loss of something wonderful and so yearning as well as other grief-related experiences, are naturally a mix of happy, sad, good and bad. (whatsyourgrief.com). We find comfort in this


verse: “Teaching them to observe all that I have commanded. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of age.” Matthew 28:20


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and the helmets that are available in Dumaguete for purchase.


I am concerned with several aspects of the law,


named Distinguished Professor in 1995, Piper Professor in 1998, and Regents’ Professor in 2007. His expertise is recognized worldwide, and he has written prominent books and articles in the field, which have been translated into other languages, and distributed across the globe. He served as mentor to many graduate students, helping them publish academic articles and advance legal scholarship in the field of criminal justice. Dr. del Carmen was one of only three scholars to be recognized with all three top awards from the Academy of Criminal Justice Sciences, the national organization of criminal justice professors: the Founder’s Award (2005), the Bruce Smith Sr. Award (1997), and the Academy Fellow Award (1990). He also


served as Branch 44 Dumaguete City


In the matter of issuance of new owner’s duplicate copy of Transfer Certificate of Title No. 21281 in lieu of the lost one.


Registry of Deeds for Dumaguete City, Respondent


Cad. Pldg. No. 2018-4727


Corazon E. Sienes, also as attorney-in- fact of her co-heir, leopoldo Encilay, petitioners -versus-


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On the charge against Rene, the prosecutors found nothing in the evidence of the police that would directly or indirectly implicate him to the crime committed. The resolution further said that there is nothing to show or even remotely suggest that he ordered or masterminded or even was aware of the alleged plans to kill Sestoso.


Sestoso’s surviving spouse Lourdes had earlier withdrawn from pursuing the case saying that she did not believe in the theory of the police that the NPA rebels were behind the killing of her husband. (JG)


that the owner’s copy of Transfer Certificate of Title No. 21281 covering Lot No. 2822-A located in Batinguel, Duamaguete City, be declared as lost and null and void, and that a new one be issued in lieu of the lost one, and entitled to like faith and credit . The Petition alleges that the owner’s copy of TCT No. 21281 was given to the Petitioner for purposes of having the Deed of Partition of the remaining Lot No. 2822-A-3 registered, and separate titles issued to Petitioner and her co- adjudicatees. After all efforts exerted to locate the missing TCT proved futile, the Petitioner executed an Affidavit of Loss which was duly annotated as entry No. 2018001624 in the Memorandum of Encumbrances of TCT No. 21281 on file with the ROD of Dumaguete City. The Petition, being sufficient in form and substance, set the hearing


Petitioner Corazon E. Sienes prays in a verified 4 September 2018 Petition


thereof on Dec. 10, 2018, starting at 8:30 a.m. in the sala of this Court located at the 3rd


affected by, the instant Petition, are directed to file opposition within 15 days from notice, or from the last publication. The Petitioner is directed to cause the publication of this Order at her


floor, Hall of Justice, Dumaguete City. All persons having any interest in, or whose right may be adversely


expense in a newspaper, duly chosen by raffle, of general circulation in this Province and its component cities, once a week for three consecutive weeks; and to post copies thereof in the premises of Lot No. 2822-A. Petitioner must submit proof of compliance hereof.


Lot No. 2822-A located in Batinguel, Dumaguete City


Republic of the Philippines Regional Trial Court 7th


Judicial Region a


For example, the ICC safety label is meaningless. I have seen it on the brand HPH (High Performance Helmet). These helmets are being sold as “compliant” with the strictest safety standards when in fact, they are extremely dangerous to the person using it.


These helmets were not


consultant to criminal justice agencies in various states, and lectured extensively in more than 40 states and internationally. He continued to be one of the leading experts in criminal law in the US, even after his retirement in 2012, and is revered by students, alumni, and fellow faculty members. Dr. del Carmen was born in northern Mindanao, in a family of 10 children. His father was a church minister, his mother a teacher. He studied at Silliman on a scholarship, and became a working student to afford board and lodging. “I got a job working three hours as a sales clerk in the Silliman Cooperative store. My salary was 13 centavos an hour. I felt rich and privileged. Later, I transferred to the office of Dr. Robert Silliman, and worked under him for most of my student days,” he shared. In spite of his studies and


constructed properly using the appropriate materials. I believe the people of Dumaguete deserve to know that they are being sold dangerous helmets. They need to be educated


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work, he was able to manage joining extra-curricular activities, such as being an active member of the Student Government and the Christian Youth Fellowship.


“Academics give you a diploma; co-curricular activities give you a life. I wanted to have both,” Dr. del Carmen recalled. Dr. del Carmen left for the US a few months after his marriage to his first wife, Josefa. Their only child, Jocelyn, was born in California where Dr. del Carmen was enrolled at UC- Berkeley. In 1974, they moved to Huntsville, Texas.


Dr. del Carmen died Wednesday morning, Oct. 31, 2018 (Texas time) at Huntsville. He is survived by his second wife, Erlyn; their daughter, Jocelyn del Carmen-Tanabe; son-in-law Chris Tanabe from Menlo Park, California; and his siblings Divina, Grace, Cirilo Jr., Benjamin, and Gloria.


Republic of the Philippines Regional Trial Court 7th


Branch 45 Bais City


In the matter of correction of entry in the live birth records of Gedion Fabillar Estrelloso, the entry of the year of his date of birth from 18 May 1990 to 18 May 1991 in the Civil Registrar of the municipality of Jimalalud, Negros Oriental


Gedion fabillar Estrelloso, Petitioner -versus-


Sp. Proc. No. J-18-10


The Office of the Civil Registrar of the municipality of Jimalalud, Negros Oriental, Respondent


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Judicial Region


on how to select the safe helmet.


METROPOST


L. Harina-Laure of tth Public Attorney’s Office, seeks for a judgment ordering the correction of the year of his birth in his Birth Certificate, particularly: from 18 May 1990 to 18 May 1991; ordering the Philippine Statistics Office and/or through the respondent Local Civil Registrar of Jimalalud, Negros Oriental, to effect this correction in his Birth Certificate; and other reliefs. Finding the Petition to be sufficient in form and substance, the initial hearing of this petition is hereby set on 23 January 2019 at 1:30 in the afternoon. Any interested party may appear and show cause, through a written opposition, why the Petition should not be granted. The Petitioner, at his own expense, is directed to publish this Order in an accredited newspaper with a general circulation in the province of Negros Oriental and in the cities of Bais, Tanjay, Dumaguete, Bayawan, Guihulngan, and Canla-on, at least once a week for three consecutive weeks. Furnish copies of this Order to the Office of the Solicitor General, the


Let copies of this Order be likewise posted in the entrance door of this Court, and on the respective bulletin boards of the OCC, RTC, HOJ, Dumaguete City; the ROD, Dumaguete City; the City Hall, Dumaguete City; and the barangay hall, Batinguel, Dumagute City. So ordered.


Neciforo C. Enot Presiding Judge


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The woman’s faith led her to believe that even touching the hem of the cloak of Jesus Christ would heal her, and so she did, and she was healed, Heruela said. That is a simple but profound explanation of why Catholics show their reverence for the saints, he added. Saints, he said, were not perfect and free of sin. In fact, if one read about their lives, one would discover that many of them committed many sins but the repentance and conversion that came afterward had brought them to lead holy lives and walk the path of righteousness.


And so, each year, the Bacong parish priest reminds the Catholic lay faithful of the real meaning of Halloween. It is the celebration of the


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lives of saints and martyrs who are now in the Church Triumphant or in heaven, whose prayers people seek for those who are in the Church Suffering or Purgatory, and in the Church Militant, or the people who are still on earth, Heruela explained. (Judy F. Partlow/PNA)


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Office of the Provincial Prosecutor, the Petitioner, his counsel, the Local Civil Registrar of Jimalalud, Negros Oriental, and the Civil Registrar General or PSA, Manila.


Oriental. So ordered. Given this 11th day of September 2018 in Bais City, Negros


Rosario S. Carriaga Assisting Judge


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In a verified Petition dated 01 June 2018, Petitioner, through Atty. Ma. Sheryl


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