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I, like most women, have dreamed of my wedding day almost my entire life. A perfect man, a perfect church, the perfect dresses, and A PERFECT day. So far so good… I have
the man, the church, and I even have a dress that is perfect for the bridesmaids and all of the bridesmaids have to look the same dress. I want them to be uniform in every way, including hair color and height. So I am choosing the bridesmaids that fit the mold but may not be the closest with. Everyone including my mother and my fiancé keep telling me that I am wrong for choosing this way, but like you always say in your column, “It’s your day”. Well, this is MY day and that is the way I want it. What do you think? {Type “A” making me sound like a “B”}
Christopher Macken
Christopher is aMakeup Artist, Entrepreneur, Atlanta Socialite, Image Consultant, Director of Creative Development for
FASHIONADE.comand featured columnist for DIY Weddings Magazine. Having trained under some of the best in the business, Christopher frequently shares his expertise and insight by speaking to rising talents such as the students at the Paul Mitchell School of Atlanta. From the Styling Team he leads, to the honest answers he provides to his clients, this businessman has worked to create The House of M Famous, Christopher Macken Concepts, and the newest installment,
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A. I want to start by thanking you for writing in. I would also like to point out what I feel is the biggest concern in your email; the part where you reference finding “A” perfect man. You would sooner find the mythical Chupacabra in south Florida. I can say that, I am a man! I hope that your intent was that you found THE perfect man… for you. Moving on from there I have to say that it sounds like you want to be a Stepford Wife. The whole thing so far sounds very cold and orchestrated. I am all for having a beautiful wedding, but do you want to look back in 20 years and see faces of people that you were not that close too simply because of their waistline or hair color. Sounds to me like you have some serious soul searching to do. I am going to have to side with your Mother and Fiancé on this one. Weddings should be about inclusion not exclusion. Diversity can be a good thing.
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My soon to be wife has been reading DIY Weddings for 9 months now since I popped the question. She even reads me your column whenever the new issue comes out so I
know guys have written into you before. You are pretty funny man! Anyway, I have heard of the grooms who have to be forced into being a part of the decision making process. I am not one of them! I have an opinion on just a few things that I have voiced to my fiancé and her mother only to have them shot down and not even considered. I know that this is her day but it is kinda mine too I think. Should I let her have “Her Big Day” and not worry about it? P.S. she will die if you put this question in DIY and I tell her I wrote it. {Ignored in Indiana }
A. It is not as rare as you may think this day in time for a man to want to be a part of the planning for HIS big day! After all it is your wedding too and there is nothing wrong with having some sort of input on the celebration. It is true that most ladies have thought through their wedding countless times and have many details already in their head. I also think that perhaps your blushing Bride to Be is simply caught up in the excitement of the planning process and is not intentionally excluding you. I would have to suggest that you speak with her privately about this. You do not want to get into a situation where your feelings come pouring out of you in the moment when her mother is around. That could lead to a confrontation of the two of them against you if they feel they need to defend themselves. In this type of situation stay calm and explain how important it is that you have some input on both of your big day. My bet is that she will swoon that you care so much. Unless of course you are wanting for it to be a Camouflage wedding theme and then I am going to have to side with your Mother In law and Bride… Stay out of it. Congrats and best of luck on your big day!
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