THE WEIRS TIMES, Thursday, January 13, 2011
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good start. Just take the first steps.
by Dr. Debi Warner Contributing Writer
Dear Dr. Debi, Ok, those New Years
resolutions got a faint start, but now what? We cannot imagine going forward, what can light that fire? Signed, Disorganized Shop & Half-Done Cabinet
Dear Needing a Lighter, Well, remember back
to the New Year? You looked backwards across a long perspective, and then viewed the projects forward with your part- ner to see what will fit in ahead for your team. And then you determined your changes and set up those plans. You are right; the plunge is the next step. So, if you have a shop
that needs attention, let’s look at it. The first thing will be to get a warm mug of cocoa and head down there. And dress warm- ly, too. Your movement around the shop will raise your body temperature and you will be quite com- fortable down there. Now, look around. Notice the types of stuff
you have. Maybe it is hel- ter skelter to your eyes, but just start talking out loud and naming what you see, along with the category it belongs to. You will start to see the categories in the chaos. Pretty soon you will be grouping things, like hand tools together, and screws, and glue, all in little clusters around the shop. That’s already a
Usually that is to go look. Such a simple step will often bring about some preliminary action from you. And amazingly sort- ing makes a great start for an organized shop. Great going! You are making progress and just thought you were side-track put- tering. A win. Just the action of moving
materials into neater order and counting them will help you bond with their place in the project. Another great kick-start
is to tell others about your activity, which is multiplied when you in- vite them along. So, how about telling your partner you are headed to the shop to mess around and make some order. That is a commitment, but doesn’t sound like a grade book is involved. Not too stressed. You can even start the task as a team. Hey you can tell your buddies you are work- ing on the sheetrock this weekend and maybe some of them don’t mind hold- ing wallboard wile you secure it. If you involve someone else in the plan,
you are less likely to drop out yourself. I would sug- gest that you start ahead though, in case they don’t come till the end of the day. You can prime your- self to get going and then show them how far you get. A good ploy to moti- vate your own energy. Hopefully, you followed
my advice and took careful stock of your shortcom- ings when making your resolutions. Now is the time to get lessons, help, and even bring delegates in from your team to reas- sign roles. While it may seem like failure to admit you need skills or help, it can also free you to get moving. And people hardly notice your deficiencies, but assume a novice needs to gain a skill here and there. There is no need to hide from it. A relief it will be to move ahead. Reflecting upon your
progress is also a step in success. It may not seem like forward movement to sit and watch and think, but yes it is. As you are moving forward with your scheme, you will be taking breaks and looking back at what you are doing. This actually will help you
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stay on course. You com- pare the happenings with the plans, the intent, and what that kitchen is sup- posed to look like. Comparing the plans
with what is actually hap- pening will bring sober realizations. While that moment can tempt you to jump out of focus, yet if embraced, it can refine your forward direction. These reflections and com- parisons are a good part of your own path correction and reality check, which is a blessing for sure to help you stay on course. You don’t need to beat yourself about mistakes or blind alleys of effort, but instead regroup and re-direct to your goal. The things you learn
along the way, about the materials and their han- dling, why joints are fash-
ioned particular ways, and the sequence that is necessary, all come from mistakes. You get a richer bank of learning when you allow yourself to pay attention when you have discovered a faulty path. Look around and glean what you can from the loss, and then your next step will be smarter. At the end of the day,
you have stepped forward. You are in a forward di- rection. No one does it perfectly, but as you pay attention to how it is go- ing, your next plans, and supplementing your skills and team with new help, you will strengthen your Home Team and also the momentum on your reso- lutions.
Happy Home Team! Dr. Debi
Dr. Debi Warner is the Founder of Renovation Psychology® and
author of Putting the Home Team to Work, available now online. Dr. Debi provides advice for greater domestic harmony to folks who are renovating their home – for True Home Improvement. This column is offered for enjoyment and enhancement and is not intended to replace your personal medical care. Photo by Bob Jenks, St. Johnsbury, Vt. Dr. Debi has a con- sultation practice, visiting home sites all over New England from her studio in Littleton, NH at the Tannery Marketplace. © 2009 Renovation Psychology® Questions are welcome.
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