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or training, such as parents to their children or supervisors to their staff, it is best to ignore ô


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ing and improving our own shortcomings. Improving ourselves produces positive spiritual advancement; criticizing others does not. The ôT


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faults in others, ask if you might have that same fault, for what disturbs you in others often indi- cates what you need to improve in yourself.


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on more subtle levels is a lifetime sadhana. Three virtues we can focus on are courtesy,


tact and sensitivity. Courtesy is being polite, respectful and considerate of the needs and feelings of others. Tactfulness is being dip- lomatic and skillful in dealing with people and situations, responding to disagreements judiciously, and maintaining harmony by seek- ing solutions that offend no one. Sensitivity is holding a delicate appreciation of others’ ideas, attitudes and natures, listening carefully in conversations and not interrupting, striving to uplift rather than dominate. The Tirukural warns, “Not knowing the companionable art of cheerful conversation, men estrange even friends by divisive discourse” (verse 187). As a general strategy, Gurudeva directed us V+


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we are going to say is necessary, as it protects us from speaking inappropriately. Thus, control of speech has two parts. First, before you speak, stop and consider what you will say. Second, determine if your words meet the test of being true, kind, helpful and necessary. This simple ô


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be applied after a comment has slipped out, providing important lessons to guide future conversations.


Tirukural Verses We can learn much about speaking pleasant words from the ancient weaver, Tiruvalluvar, who devoted chapter ten of his Tirukural to the subject. Here are four verses to live by.


see the same faults in ourselves and correct them. The Tirukural challenges in verse 190, “If men perceived their own faults as they do the faults of others, could misfortune ever come to them?” And in verse 188: “If men are disposed to spread the faults of friends, what deadly harm might they do to strangers?” Backbiting clearly fails our speech test. The fact is that unless we are responsible for someone’s upbringing


“Poverty-producing sorrow will not pursue those who speak joy-producing words to all


they meet.” verse 94 “If a man seeks to do good while speaking sweet words, his virtues will wax and his vices will wane.” verse 96


“Words yield spiritual rewards and moral excellence, when they do not wander far from usefulness and agreeableness.” verse 97


“To utter harsh words when sweet ones would serve is like eating unripe fruits when ripe ones are at hand.” verse 100


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