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Signs that You Made a Bad Choice for a Personal Aide By mobileWOMEN

below are TRUE and, yes, actually happened. Thankfully, they refer to different people.

I realize that I may have not chosen the best helper when:

• My mother and I went to a restau- rant with my new helper and she pulled out a switchblade and carved her initials into the table!

Many of us rely on others to help with our daily activities, whether it be our personal care, house- work, transportation, etc. Their work is vital, valuable and, for some of us, absolutely necessary in order to live healthy, produc- tive lives. Once we find the right aide, the world is lifted from our shoulders and we can then relax and focus on whatever is important to us. We should never underestimate their importance. We should be grateful every day for their dedication, hard work, and patience.

The unfortunate part is that it is not always easy (okay, to be honest, it is extremely difficult) to find the right helper who can meet our needs. More often than not, the person seems like the right match in the beginning, but the situation can go south rather quickly! We spoke to some mobileWOMEN and compiled our Top 10 list of “so crazy that they are comical” indicators that the wrong helper was hired. In these cases, these mobileWOMEN’s radar completely malfunctioned and a bad decision was definitely made when hiring them. All of the situations

• My aide told me that I had evil spirits surrounding me and they were chasing her because she was pure and a good person! Unfortu- nately, she was not joking.

• She asked me if she should mas- sage my husband after a long day’s work, since I had mentioned when hiring her that I needed her to be my “hands” and help around the house.

• My aide came in for work laughing because her 11-year-old daughter had to tell her to stop driving in the middle of the road on her way to my house. She’d obviously had too much to drink.

• I found out that she did not have a valid driver’s license after she drove my van up over a median and hit some trees because she had con- fused the gas pedal with the brake. The best part is that she asked the valet at my apartment building to park my vehicle with tree limbs still protruding out the windows!

• She barged in while I was shower- ing and announced that she had two husbands.

• She almost set my house on fire. She had told me that she did not smoke, yet apparently would sneak around the corner of the house when she felt the need. I found out when she threw her cigarette into the mulch in the garden, setting it and a bush next to the house on fire!

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• I asked her to cut my food and she shredded my meal with her finger nails (and no, she did not wash her hands first)!

• I almost got into a car accident because I didn’t have a clear view of the road and asked her if it was okay to proceed. She gave a re- sounding, “Yes!” and once I pro- ceeded into the intersection, yelled, “After this car!”

• Okay, this time, this one did not get hired because she stated during the interview that she was divorced because she had an affair on her husband and that he remar- ried and his wife was a bitch and she planned on making their life a “living hell” during the upcoming holidays! It’s good to know that sometimes our radar works and we see the red flag.

Choosing Your Care WISELY

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