Article: Self Sabotage
Bruce was interviewed for the EFT Tapping World Summit 2011. He says that during the second half of the pregnancy and the first six years of life our brains are functioning at theta level, which means we are basically in a hypnotic trance. This means that everything that we experience during that time just goes into our brain, without any discernment. A lot of these experiences will sit in our subconscious, because our contextual memory doesn’t start functioning until we are about three years old. It is during these early years of life that we also develop our core beliefs.
Our core beliefs are beliefs about ourselves and how we fit in the world. By the time we are three we usu- ally already have these beliefs in place, despite the fact that we are unable to have abstract thought at that age. Our beliefs form through repetitive expe- riences and our need to take meaning from those experiences. Core beliefs, together with other early life experiences, form the foundation of who we are today.
There are a small number of core beliefs which come in a million flavours. They are varieties of: ‘I’m not good enough’ (and no matter what I do I will never be),’ I’m not deserving’, ‘I’m not lovable’, ‘the world is not safe’, and ‘I don’t belong’.
Later in life we continue to make decisions and choices based on this early input, which is primarily stored in our subconscious. The result is that, sub- consciously, our six year old self can end up making crucial life decisions.
It is essential - in my mind - to uncover the core beliefs and work with them. We can’t work with that which is out of consciousness so we need to find ways to make the subconscious conscious.
And EFT is the perfect tool for this, and is also one of the few techniques that have an impact on our hard wiring.
It is also important to know a bit more about our emotions. Our emotional response is many times faster than our thinking response. That makes sense when you remember about the stimuli processed by our subconscious. We have on average of 40- 50 emotions per hour.
The physiology of emotions is well explained by Dr Candace Pert in her book “Molecules of Emotion” . We can use our emotions as our individualised and sensitive guidance system, as they provide us with acute internal and external feedback. If the emotion is intense – say over an 8 on the SUDS – it will be very difficult to even engage our logical thinking.
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How can we befriend our inner saboteur?
Our inner saboteur is by nature outside our awareness. Therefore we need to gather more information by doing some detective work. We can increase our awareness and catch our inner dialogue. What are we telling ourselves? Do we repeatedly say the same (negative) thing to ourselves, without previously noticing?
I remember a time when life was challenging, and at one point I realised that I was repeatedly saying to myself: ‘Life is like pushing an elephant uphill’. Say that often enough and it becomes a belief, which I will then continue to find evidence for. If I have another saying such as: ‘Easy is good’, I’m much more likely to attract ease into my life, as I’ll be finding evidence for that belief. Remember a belief is just a thought that has been repeated often.
We all have limiting beliefs. They too can be out of our awareness. Notice your judge- ments of others, as they often are expressions of a limiting belief we hold.
See if you can spot incongruences between what you ver- balise and what you feel.
Ask yourself probing questions or complete these state- ments to get more insight into your subconscious process:
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I will be successful when….. I will be happy when….
The only way for me to achieve what I want is….. The reason why I’m not there yet is….
The downside of being successful/healthy/happy is….
Instead of getting frustrated with ourselves when we self- sabotage, we can view it as a cue indicating that we are stepping outside our comfort zone, trying something new. For instance, in weight loss it is very common for people to have a certain weight that they just can’t get below. As soon as they get to this weight they put more weight back on. Realising that this is a challenge because you’re step- ping outside your comfort zone is the first positive step to overcoming this problem. If you tap for this comfort zone problem, you’ll make it possible to create a new comfort zone, and you might uncover some subconscious experi- ence related to this weight, which you can then clear as well.
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