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Swing into Life with Dancing at Arthur Murray in Niantic


A talented staff, a beautiful studio, elegance, grace, health, confidence...and friends and fun! And it’s all right here in Niantic at the Arthur Murray Dance Studio on Main Street. “Most people aren’t aware of the breadth of benefits that dancing can bring to their lives,” says Jessica Freitas, studio owner. “We instruct people of all ages and backgrounds -- experienced partners who’d just


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like to brush up on the steps that they learned years ago before they go off on a romantic cruise, as well as couples anticipating the first dance of the rest of their lives.” “We also encourage the friendly socializing that comes with dancing at Arthur Murray: making new friends, enjoying one another’s company and trying something new an exciting to break up a long week of hard work. The time spent here dancing is confidence-inspiring, and carries through into all aspects of life.”


There is not one,”formal” style at the studio either. Classics like the waltz


and foxtrot lead easily into energetic swing, flirtatious chacha, mindless merengue, fiery samba, and nightclub dances like the spicy salsa or hustle.... personality of its own and can be mastered at any level. Dancers can be beginners, intermediates, or competitive-level, explains Jessica. The studio also takes advantage of the activity of dance with workout programs like Zumba Fitness that’s designed for all ages and levels of being in shape for life and the world. “There’s a full calendar of activities,” Jessica says, “from group classes to Showcases to theme parties. This, however, is the best time to get involved. We are celebrating 100 years as an organization and will be celebrating on April 4th in the shopping concourse at Mohegan Sun! Check out our website calendars at www.nianticballroom.com, fi nd us on Facebook...or call me at 860.739.3991. As we say, ‘Put a little fun in your life...Try Dancing!’”


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ear Neil: I feel very lost. I have been with a man for five years, and our relationship is now so bad that I feel there is no respect for me at all. He humiliates me every chance he gets. How do I get out? Where do I find the strength?


-Lost in Vail


Dear Vail: You gain strength by focusing on the life you want, the life you dream of living, the future you will be proud of and the sense that you deserve more than this relationship offers you. If you don’t leave when you know you should, you’re going to be despairing and angry with yourself later on.


Dear Neil: Over the past 5 years there have been many personal losses in my life. Recent years have been marked by the sudden deaths of people close to me: My step-father, my uncle, two of my best girlfriends, my counselor and two close male friends. I have also lost several dear pets, and a close personal relationship. As the losses


here are a variety of similarities between life and cooking. order to create a meal you must


go through a number of steps. The first one is deciding what you want to make. Obviously, you should select something you like. Otherwise you won’t have any enthusiasm for preparing it and you certainly won’t want to eat it. In life, you need goals before you


can get what you want. Whatever goals you chose have to excite you or else you will not have much motivation to attain them. Just as your culinary tastes can change over time, so can your goals. What should you do when you


know what you want but don’t know how to make it? You find the recipe you need. Many resources exist to help you. There are numerous cookbooks which show you how to make virtually anything. Perhaps you know someone who knows how to prepare the meal


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you want. You can ask them for the recipe. Attending a cooking school or taking a class is another option. You also need to know what is


required to reach your goals in life. There are just as many resources available for this as for cooking. Read books, ask others who are where you want to be, take classes, and use the internet. A lack of proper knowledge leads to unsatisfactory results in both life and the kitchen. Next, you need quality ingredients.


If the ingredients aren’t tasty, or are spoiled, the meal won’t be any good either. Your results will never be better than what you start with. You also have to use the ingredients called for by the recipe. Substitute ingredients and you will alter the outcome. The ingredients then have to be combined in the proper amounts.


If


you change the proportions for any reason, your meal will be different than you expected. This is not to say you can’t experiment or create your own unique dish. You just need to be aware that whenever you change what you put in you impact what you get out. So you have all of the ingredients combined and put into a pot on the


stove. What’s next? You have to turn on the burner. Without taking this action, your meal will never cook. Even with the best intentions and a positive attitude, nothing will happen without heat under your pot. The final phase is to allow the food


to cook for enough time. You can’t speed up the process by turning up the heat. All you will do is burn your meal and it will be just as inedible as when it is undercooked. Analogies can be very helpful


in understanding concepts and relationships. It’s easy to lose track of where you are or why certain things need to be done. Use this cooking example to stay on your path to attain all of the things you want in life. NOW AVAILABLE: Dare to


Live Without Limits, the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com. © Bryan Golden. To post your comments, visit


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residentIntimacy Where Do I Find The Power To Leave?


kept mounting, I have lost much of my ability to recover, and find myself buried in sadness and pain. The world has become a lonely, dark and unforgiving place. Most passed from sudden tragic deaths and “extremely rare” conditions. At 53 years old, I am very alone. I’m afraid to seek any new friendships---I’d hate to put a jinx on some poor, unsuspecting person. Perhaps being alone isn’t nearly as painful as growing close to someone and losing them.


-Extremely Alone in Vail


Dear Vail: Is it better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all? That is the Shakespearian question for you to ponder. Your aloneness allows you to mourn your losses, and it’s keeping you safe from getting close to anyone else and risking further loss. It may be the wisest and healthiest thing you can do for awhile.


But after a respectable period of time, if it stops you from allowing yourself to get close to new people, to form new relationships or to bring new animals into your life, then you are damning yourself to an extremely unhappy and lonely future. You will not only feel demoralized, you will also lose trust in your ability to cope with life’s challenges.


Permit your sad, wounded feelings to be there, but also look at what gives


you hope. Focus on what kind of future you would like for yourself, and what would help you to look forward to a brighter future. In order to do this, you will have to look at what goals you still have and where your passions lie. Yes, you may be afraid to re-engage with people and new relationships for fear of further loss, but don’t let that fear stop you. Feel the fear and then re-engage with life and with new people anyway.


It’s our relationships, not our


accomplishments, or possessions or our memories---that matter the most in life and which ultimately bring you the greatest sense of fulfillment, contentment and happiness.


I am suggesting you reach out to


new people, take classes, learn some new skills and challenge yourself. You do this by becoming more a participant in life and less reserved and held back. Finally, I am recommending you let hope run your life rather than fear. You must find a way to believe in yourself and the value of your life, so you don’t let adversity and loss defeat you. Neil Rosenthal is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the Denver and Boulder, CO areas, specializing in how people strengthen their intimate relationships. He can be reached at 303.758.8777. To post your comments, visit


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