Violet King
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How hard is it for you to say “NO”?
In some recent course work that I was involved in it appears that many of us fi nd it really diffi cult about saying “No”.
Are you afraid to cause offense?…. It depends on how you say it! The tone of your voice is very important…. The expression on your face gives
out massive messages and can seem aggressive, which we don’t want.
You don’t want to let someone down?... Don’t forget, your comfort and peace of mind is important too.
Can we be guilty of feeling that to say “No” is wrong!…. When others ask you to take on work or do favours, consider their requests carefully. Remind yourself that often the ability to say “No” is an important aspect of your personal well-being. It is an indication that you understand the true value of your personal energy, talents, and time. As you learn to say “No”, you will feel stronger and more in control. … which many people need!
If you fi nd it diffi cult, try just raising your hand, smile, and then saying NO is so much easier. “Sorry, it’s really not convenient as I’ve already got other plans” is another option.. “Sorry, but I cannot take on anything extra at the moment.” You will be surprised at how many people will just accept your refusal.
Remember that you have a choice in every avenue of your life….. You choose which way to go…. literally, physically, mentally, spiritually, and at the end of the day, when you look back on your life, wouldn’t it be great to realise that you did what you had to do by taking control and living life the way you wanted to? It’s not selfi shness, it’s proving that you value yourself.
Take care!…. ‘til the next time! Violet King……. Personal Confi dential Counsellor.
Female Focus
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