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affected by the worldwide crisis but this does not need to be rocking their security. We all want to have security in our lives, and depending on our journey this will determine where we look to, to provide this feeling. If we have built a family culture that refl ects property, possessions and things of material value as being our sense of security, this crisis may well be causing some bumpy times however, it could be a wake-up call for our family culture to start re-evaluating where it gains
creating a free family event in its place. As parents, see all these changes are done with the minimal amount of 'loss' involved and in its place recognize the advantages, without invalidating the feelings of loss along the way. We use the excuse of money to avoid us getting creative. If activities are having to change, see them as a phase of change instead of 'doom and gloom, over and out'. This is a time of change, so fi nd a creative solution that brings happiness. Talk about the natural seasons of our year - spring,
TALKING WITH OUR KIDS ABOUT THE CRISIS, (AGE APPROPRIATE) IS KEY TO CREATING THE SECURITY THEY DESIRE.
security from. If we have a family culture which is building our sense of security from hope, love, harmony, creativity and some higher power, we will have more to hold on to in times of fi nancial crisis. A family that understand this will have an air of 'it's okay, we're not sure how, but it's okay'. A family without it will be fearful and panicked. This is not to say that the family with a family culture of valued principles at its core will not have a very real feeling of loss when material possessions are gone, but there is a calming acceptance present also. Talking with our kids about the crisis, is key to creating the security they desire. If we are about to lose our house, we have not lost each other. If we are about to have to give up some activities because it's just too tight to squeeze the budget any further, start
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summer, winter and autumn. The natural beauty of each season which we can embrace and how we may be in a winter right now but that doesn't mean springtime won't show up. Our kids will have friends whose families are losing and have no way of dealing with these issues. They'll be angry, hurt, disillusioned and all forms of emotions will be bubbling away. Instead of thinking, "Oh well, that's them not us", lend a helping hand. If we cannot do it physically, help their kids by creating a safe space for them to be.
Become one of those parents who gives to our village and start building the lives of our children's friends constructively. It makes a difference. Our kid's friends will tell us things they're too scared to tell their parents given half an opportunity. They already see our family is Complex! It's not
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