Mastering the 4 Stages of Transition by Shann Vander Leek “Creating your life on your terms
is really about allowing for grace through your next transition.” - Shann Vander Leek
Whether you have made the choice, or have been forced to significantly alter your life, it’s time to begin navigating your transition. This article will guide you through the four stages of any transition cycle, and provide strategies to help you move gracefully through each moment of the experience.
Deborah Martin, my mentor and coach shared the following information with me when she learned that I planned to follow in her footsteps and become an international transition coach. It is with pleasure that we pass this teaching on to you.
The first stage of any significant transition begins with suffering and skin- crawling discomfort. You know a radical change is coming, but you might not be sure what to do about it. Chances are
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you will be down in the dumps. You may feel frightened, angry, uncertain, or like you’re reeling out of control. During my career transition, I remember feeling lost in a fog, and completely freaked out by the fact that the ideals around which my whole former
Try to cut back on extraneous commitments at home or work, and take the time to be gentle with yourself.
Items on your daily to-do list might include: inspirational reading, watching a magical
“Each stage of a significant tran to several months. Honoring and the process to unfold naturally, difficult stages of t
life had been built – were no longer acceptable.
During this painful first stage, I recommend staying with your regular, comfortable routines. When you are filled with a black hole of uncertainty, the best thing you can do is create a nurturing daily plan focused on self-care.
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sunset, choosing fresh-cut flowers for your desk or dining room table, playing on a swing set, soaking in a hot bath, listening to great music, practicing yoga or Tai Chi, playing outside with your family, preparing a tasty meal, or writing in a gratitude journal. Joyful activities like these help to balance the stress and suffering.
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