Weddings
some controversial guests on your invite list. Should you invite your first husband if you are still on good terms, especially if you have children together? Perhaps you are still good friends with your ex husband’s family and it would seem wrong not to invite them. The golden rule here is to talk to your future husband openly about the guest list and only invite the people that you are both totally comfortable with. After all, the day is about the two of you and you have to be able to enjoy it without any past bitterness creeping in. It’s fine to invite whoever you like, and
there’s no rule that says your ex husband or his family shouldn’t be there. However, if you don’t want to be reminded of your first wedding during the ceremony you could consider just inviting them to the reception afterwards, they would probably understand your reasoning.
Second time brides are usually more relaxed. It is a bit like having your second child; you wonder what all the stress and worry was about the first time.
What to wear? If it was hard the first time
round it doesn’t get any easier but there is no reason why you shouldn’t wear white for your second wedding. You are a bride after all, albeit for the second time around. You only have to look at the photographs in any celebrity magazine to see second or even third time brides in traditional white. If you wore a white dress for your first
TWO TIMES THE BRIDE
Second weddings can be just as lavish as the first time around as Valerie Breese discovers
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ong gone are the days when a second wedding was a cause of embarrassment; a discreet affair to be conducted with the least possible fuss and attention.
These days second weddings can be just as lavish as the first time around, and many brides find that they actually enjoy their second wedding more than the first because they already know exactly what they do and do not want.
Second time brides are usually more relaxed. It is a bit like having your second child; you wonder what all the stress and worry was about the first time. Even so, there are a few specific questions about second weddings that you might want answering before you begin to plan your big day.
www.meridian-magazine.co.uk Can you be married in a church? The Church of
England has given its overwhelming official backing for divorced couples to remarry in church. Its ruling body the General Synod voted by 269 votes to 83 in favour of the move, in the hope of ending a dilemma that has afflicted the Church from its earliest days. Anglican clergy already have the discretion to marry
divorcees whose former spouses are still alive, but the Synod strongly agreed that an unambiguous statement of principle was needed given that 11 per cent of the 7,500 church weddings held every year already include at least one divorcee. If you just want a civil wedding venue there are
many websites like
www.venues.org.uk that list all the venues in a specific area with the capacity and contact details. Depending on how your first marriage ended, there may be
marriage and you want to make your second a bit different, there are many designers now making a variety of coloured dresses. Gold and silver are popular options, or you could choose a white gown with coloured accents in the bodice, train or sash. If you want to wear white but aren’t keen on repeating the traditional bridal gown you could look for well cut white suit for a modern twist. There are no rules so find an outfit that makes you feel special. Deciding whether to ask for presents for your second marriage can be tricky, especially as many of your guests will have attended your first wedding and brought a gift then. This question is especially difficult if it is the second time for you but the first time for your fiancé.
One possibility is
to avoid a traditional gift list but choose something that you can really enjoy as a couple and ask guests
for an optional contribution. This can be anything from money or travel vouchers towards your honeymoon, to wine to stock up your cellar, or
vouchers for a local garden centre if you are keen
gardeners, but strictly no toasters!
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