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It is possible to work with the part that is holding on to this behaviour to create more useful, more effec- tive and more creative strategies to achieve the same positive outcome, without creating the problem.

A possible statement could be – “Even though the part that’s creating this anxiety is working hard for me, I’d like it to understand that what it does, isn’t work- ing. I’d like it to create a safer, healthier and more

created and then to find it’s purpose in your life. Often we are holding on to beliefs or patterns of behaviour that we created very early on in our life. When we become aware of them and their purpose it’s possible to reframe using EFT.

“Even though when I was little, dad shouted at me and I thought he didn’t love me, it’s possible that with his background, he didn’t know how else to show his love.”

The part may be our inner child, the part of us that was damaged early on, or that took on board other people's beliefs or fears that were given to us, usu- ally with love, to keep us safe. Asking the client to find that little child and ask it what it needs to be healed can allow profound changes. If it needs to be loved and accepted, the EFT statement could be - “Even though little Mary doesn’t feel loved and accepted, I choose to give her the love and accept- ance she needs!"

Parts can also be used very effectively when your intuition suggests there might be a reason to hold on to the problem but the client may not accept that reason.

This can be particularly useful when dealing with secondary gain. No client can argue if you intro- duce a statement which says: Even though part of me may believe that I need to keep this problem, I deeply and completely accept myself, especially that part. Accepting that part for what it does, will of- ten be enough to allow things to change. It releases the need for resistance. The part that creates the problem is so used to the client fighting it, that when there’s nothing to fight, it may just let go.

If the client accepts that there is a reason to hold on to the problem, incorporate that reason in your statement. It will usually be a reversals.

“Even though part of me is scared to let this go, because who will I be then? I deeply and com- pletely accept myself. Or “Even though part of me is scared to let this go, because who will I be then? I choose to be curious and excited about discovering who I am and to be comfortable just being me. It’s all I can be, so I may as well enjoy it!

creative way of fulfilling it’s positive intention. I thank it for it’s help and I deeply and completely love and accept all parts of me”. Although long, this statement gives an instruction to the subconscious to make safe and healthy changes and also accepts it for what it has done, which collapses the resistance to change.

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Be creative with your statements. Don’t worry about perfection, just do it, if it doesn’t work, do something else instead. Remember –There’s no failure, only feedback.

Jaqui Crooks, EFT Master

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