eradicating shame make funny noises
5. alternate between then watch- ing the movie and them looking at themselves looking at the movie
6. use your own creativity here
- add the Bandler twist! Get them to cut the movie up in shorter pieces and then get them to play it back in the wrong sequence.
And again… let them tap through all of this.
This technique has always helped my clients to totally or significantly reduce the hold of any past event. [I just realized that I’ve never tried this on future events that clients may be anxious about…worth a tryl.]
Byron gifted us with one of the most phenomenal and profound processes I’ve ever come across. Look her up on YouTube or her site www.thework.com
I sometimes do The Four Questions with my clients and tap at every stage or sometimes just ask By- ron’s all powerful question … IS IT TRUE?
I highly recommend getting familiar with this technique.
THE SEDONA METHOD
Lester Levinson, the founder of The Sedona Method asked himself once ‘When have I ever truly been happy?’ At first he thought that it was times that he was loved but then he realized that it was actually the times that he was loving that he was the happiest of all. [This has nothing to do with shame but I love his insight.]
I find The Sedona Method fascinat- ing and powerful in my personal life (a big thanks to my friend Gemma Keany from www.se
dona-norway. no It releases shame effectively because it works with the mind, in- tellect and reason (magician realm)
and often brings about profound ob- jectivity (magician realm) and peace beyond mind. And yes, I combine tapping with the method.
A very powerful tool in the magi- cian quarter! We are being told that healing is painful and takes a long time; I often say (with laughter) that healing is a serious business. And it is … but then so is the power of
If you have stuff around allowing humour in your sessions, tap on it. Seriously.
DIGNITY & PROVOCATION
A friend, Peter Shaw, once said something that I instinctively knew to be true – that the antidote for shame is dignity.
Provocative techniques sometimes help clients to get into a higher energy (e.g. anger) and outside of themselves enough that they can provide the dignity to their shamed self that they cannot do from within the place of shame.
Allow laughter and humour to sur- face, use it respectfully, gently and laughingly to lead your client to a different perspective about them- selves, about life and about pos- sibility. Anchor in these new insights and understandings and lighter way of being by tapping it in.
Point out with sensitivity where they are irrational, how they judge them- selves so differently than they judge others, how they apply double standards, lie to themselves, insist on telling the future and expecting the worst from the future with state- ments like:
- ‘Even though no-one with my problem have EVER EVER EVER changed …’
- ‘…I’m definitely the worst/ugliest/ fattest out of all the 7 billion people on the planet’
- ‘Even though other people de- serve love and companionship I am so special that I don’t!’
E.g. if a client is a lawyer, con- struct a court case where you are prosecuting his shamed self and they have to defend the same part. Have them dissociate rather than associate, i.e. let them be the lawyer for a client rather than defending themselves. Build a case using every bit of evidence you can remember from what they’ve told you (or make stuff up!) about why the client ‘should’ feel ashamed of themselves. Put some energy into it, stand up, raise your voice, get angry – PROVOKE! Absolutely have them tapping at this time.
If they interrupt you to defend their client (themselves!) – great! If they get angry at you – great! If they vent and rage – great! The more they can step into the energy of protecting and wanting to bring dig- nity to their ‘client’ the better; you’re helping them to open up new neural pathways, to think differently (about themselves) and to get a different perspective. Let them tap all the time.
If they cannot get into it, get them to pick someone they love and respect (e.g. a child). Once the anger is vented and the ‘client’ defended, expect them to drop down into stillness and more acceptance; allow some space for that too and point out gently that they really were defending themselves (You
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