fruit fly
by angelica osborne
The Family Circle
Growing up, me and my best friend since elementary school were course!). She’s all super giggly and excited. Fortunately, he is a sweet-
totally boy crazy. We didn’t go to the grocery store without heart and totally adorable, but I am still nervous.
scoping out boys. The two of us made lists of all the What if he breaks her heart? What if they get mar-
names of the boys in class in order of how cute ried and then his true passion for Monster trucks
they were. We used to wear our slutty-hair- comes out and he spends all her money
band-groupie-looking attire under our we saved for her college on his new
clothes. After our parents left, we could Bigfoot Car Eating Robot and then
change in the bathroom, all to attract lays around on the couch expecting
the attention of teenage boys. my daughter to provide for him?
Imagine my surprise, after Panic Attack. I know. They are
losing touch with my B.F.F. for only in the 7th grade, but yet
20 years then reconnecting as a mommy your mind goes
on Facebook. She tells me through every scenario. Our
she’s divorced twice and whole job is to make sure
now is in a loving two-year that our greatest creation
relationship with a woman is kept safe and sound.
and couldn’t be happier! However, equally impor-
Her life is on a happy and tant is their happiness.
successful path. I am so How can a parent disre-
happy for her. However, gard their child’s choice
her mother refuses to even in a partner if that person
acknowledge her partner’s makes them truly happy?
existence. The girlfriend’s My girlfriend’s mom even
not invited to family dinners. encouraged her to get back
If my friend even mentions her with her ex-husband who is a
girlfriend, her mom changes the total dick, because at least that
subject. She has even hung up on way she didn’t have to worry about
her! Soon things will reach the other people’s judgments on her as a
“It’s not easy being a mother. If it were easy, fathers would do it.” ~The Golden Girls
inevitable, my friend will have to choose between her family and her girlfriend. mother when they see her only daughter matched up with a big, beefy lesbian.
She will tire of two Thanksgivings, two Christmases and two separate lives. It’s so How sad is that? There are parents out there who would prefer their child be in an
stupid how by trying to not lose their child to homosexuality, they end up just unhealthy relationship that looks good in family photos rather than the person
losing their child completely. They do it that way so they can say things like, “She they love. The message we need to sending our kids is “I love you regardless of
decided to no longer be a part of this family,” with a pained grimace. It’s kinda like a your sexuality! If you tell someone about your kid’s life choices and then end with,
guy being a dick so his girlfriend will break up with him so he doesn’t feel guilty or “He/She is happy and doing well. I am so proud of her/him,” then the other person
sound like a jerk. “Hey, she’s the one who walked away from me.” will probably come back with,” Well, that’s all that matters,” or something to that
The truth is, I can sympathize with parents concerned with who ends up with effect. You can do more by radiating joy or self-assurance than you can by telling
their child. As a mother of a 13-year-old, I am just beginning to deal with this someone else what joy and self-assurance are. Love who you are and love who
aspect of motherhood. Almost overnight, my little girl grew hips and boobies! I you love, with all your heart, and that energy alone heals the world. No one can
tried everything—milk with no hormones, grounding her, growth stunt pills, etc. stop your heart from loving, not even Mom. Now if you’ll excuse me, I have to get
but to no avail…the hormones raged on despite my disapproval. Now she has her my binoculars. My daughter and her boyfriend are on the beach...
first boyfriend and it is quite an adjustment for my husband and me. This is our
new world. They are in LUUUUV. They write poems for each other. They text all day
and night. They walk down to the pier (with me watching through binoculars, of
feedback?
fruitfly@ragemonthly.com or
blog@ragemonthly.com
30 RAGE monthly | December 2009
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