TALK
he.she.We
ROMANCE,
RELATIONSHIPS
AND WHY IT’S
better to
reCeiVe
thAn it is
to giVe
Life coach Fléchelle Morin
answers your questions.
This month: How to restore
balance in your relationship
by embracing the natural
laws of giving and receiving.
by FlÉcHEllE morIn
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together
for two and a half years. Since we both still
have children living at home, we’ve decided
not to get married or live together until both
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of our nests are empty. Despite the fact
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we live apart, we share our lives on every
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level. But during the last few months, I have ta
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it
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noticed my boyfriend becoming more and
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rs
e!
more distant. I have tried everything I can
think of to ‘jolt’ him out of his funk, including
going out of my way to do special things for
him. But whether it’s cooking him a romantic relationship. The masculine energy, by nature, and has (seemingly) nothing more to do. He has
dinner or picking up his clothes from the dry is giving, protective and cherishing; men like settled into his habits and, since he no longer
cleaners, he doesn’t seem to appreciate it. to give. So the man will think of fun things has to ‘fight to win the girl,’ he relaxes, thinking
In fact, he can’t seem to get away from me to do on dates, planning in advance to get all is well. But the woman still wants romance!
fast enough! I asked him if he still loves me theater tickets or make dinner reservations. She wants to feel pampered and cherished like
and he says he does, but it’s hard for me to In contrast, the feminine energy is receptive, she did in the beginning of their relationship.
believe him when he treats me this way. How available and respecting; women like to And so, because of her interpretation of what
do I get back the man I fell in love with…and receive. Most women feel pampered and seems like the man’s inaction (though he could
who loved me back? cherished by a prospective mate during this give her a list of all the things he does for her
A. It’s a dilemma as old as love itself: Boy ‘honeymoon’ period—always looking good, like fixing her car, getting her a new washer,
meets girl. Boy falls in love with girl. Boy and smelling good and being respectful as a way etc.), she starts doing things for him in order to
girl get into a relationship….Boy changes. to signal her appreciation for his offerings. get his attention.
During the early stages of courtship, it’s Now, let’s fast forward a year later….The I am a strong believer that whenever our
common for a man to take charge of the man has chased, competed and conquered relationships go amiss, the best way to find
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