About the author
) Slow down. Stop rushing.
Carla Roth is a life-long resident of Southern Indiana with
Remove hurry from your vocabulary.
over 25 years of professional counseling experience. Her
areas of expertise include: addiction, grief and bereavement,
Take deep breaths and relax.
crisis intervention, childhood trauma, parenting, and debt
recovery. Carla is passionate about helping others over-
4) Choose simplicity vs. excess. come obstacles that block their path to health and healing.
Resist the temptation to indulge in
As a writer and speaker, Carla is inspired by the love of her
activity and material possessions.
husband and children, the antics of six treasured pets, a firm
foundation of faith, and the strategies of football. For confi-
Adopt the belief: Less is More
dential consultation or information Carla can be reached at:
812-207-8 or c.dayvault@insightbb.com.
5) Model purposeful, physical

work in your daily routine; perform
tasks with a cheerful attitude. Your
“Life Chat”
enthusiasm will be contagious (at
Do you have a life question?
least until the pre-teen years – another
topic for another article).
Ask Carla
lifechat@silivingmag.com
Dear Life Chat,
) Foster your child’s character
by validating their patience,
My daughter is constantly begging for me to buy her items, such as new
thoughtfulness, honesty, generosity, sneakers, an ipod or a new mobile phone. My husband just lost his job and
and kindness more than their
I’m not sure how to tell her we just can’t afford these items. Please help.
accomplishments.

Cindy, New Albany
If you have lost touch with the
child inside of you, I assure you, he
Dear Cindy,
Job loss can create overwhelming stress - I’m sorry this has happened
or she is still there. Buy a new box
to your family. During this difficult time, children of all ages need
of crayons, play seek and find with
reassurance that their needs will be met even though they may not be able
the clouds, catch some fireflies or
to have some of the things they want. Validate your daughter’s feelings
whatever brings back the magic of
and acknowledge your feelings when saying “no” to her requests. Remain
childhood for you. As you reconnect
firm with the limits you need to set. I am guessing that your daughter is
with your inner child, children will be at least a pre-teen or older and may base her assessment of what she needs
drawn to you and your relationship
on what she wants. This is where your wisdom as a parent is so vital.
with them will be richer.
The circumstances you are faced with provide an opportunity to discuss
priorities and money management with your daughter. Let her know that
Watch…be alert. When the student is
you care about her wants and her needs. Ask her to make a list of them from
ready, the teacher will appear.
most important to least important. This will be a good learning tool for her
and will give direction to you when finances become more flexible.
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