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relationships
Do you proudly reel off the notches
on your bedpost, or is it better to
keep your lady in the dark?
Chloe Marshall broaches
the delicate subject of
sexual history.
COMING CLEAN
It’s going really well with a new girlfriend, sense to reduce risks when it comes to STDs and connection I feel with that particular partner, and
and you’re both champing at the bit for HIV. Until you’re ready to ask your new lady a few how we explore sex together” says Amanda, 29, a
some bareback horseplay. But when it questions about her sexuality and sexual health, graphic designer.
comes to talking about sexual history and be sure to practice safe sex. Most crucially, avoid
health, you may hit an awkward hurdle. sex if you or your girlfriend have cuts or sores on The relationship you have is about the here
Talking about sex in an open and honest the mouth or vagina, and avoid any kind of sex and now, and sharing your past should be a
way should be easiest with your lover, but that could cause vaginal or anal cuts or bleeding. way of understanding each other better, rather
sadly talking about the past isn’t always Avoid sharing sex toys. Don’t forget, either, that than passing judgement. Some experiences are
so simple. sex between women can transmit HPV, the virus uncomfortable or painful to talk about, so bear this
associated with cervical cancer, so make sure you in mind when introducing this kind of conversation.
While there are a fair few issues brought up when have a regular smear test to be on the safe side. Also, pick your timing wisely – don’t bring sexual
sharing sexual history, the most immediate and history up in the middle of an argument, or because
important aspect to consider is safe sex. “My Talking frankly about previous partners, sexual you’ve heard a rumour from someone else. Many
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fi rst concern is sexual health. I’m concerned with behaviour, and risks taken can lead to jealousy, couples choose not to open up to each other until
whether they’ve taken risks and been tested, rather insecurity or bitterness. “If I discovered my girlfriend the relationship has blossomed into something very
than how many people they’ve slept with” says had previously been really promiscuous, I would trusting and secure. Other couples respect each
Sarah, 40, an accountant. be wondering if all their other partners were better other’s privacy to the point that they simply don’t
at doing the deed than me” confesses Kat, 34, a ask and don’t tell.
Doctors may give differing advice to gay girls about barmaid. If your new girlfriend is a hardcore gold
how careful we need to be, but it’s just common star lesbian, revealing that you’ve previously had Sometimes, sharing taboo subjects and intimate
dalliances with the opposite sex may well put her stories can even be a good opportunity to discover
off. Janine, 23, says: “I’d been with my girlfriend for new ways to please each other! Nicky, 23, a grad
four months when she let slip that she’d had student, says: “I fi nd it talking about sex quite
several casual encounters with men during her exciting. Even though I get shy, I like testing the
teens. I became worried I might catch something, water of how they respond, and if they like you too
or that sex with men was somehow superior to then it gets you both a little excited and you can
sex with me.” hear it in their voice, it’s quite sexy!”
The intimacy you share might seem less But whatever your focus, be it safe sex, or learning a
meaningful if you discover you’re the umpteenth little more about your past experiences and desires,
lady – or lad - on their list, but try not to feel just remember to be sensitive to one another’s
intimidated. “Sex for me is about the feelings.
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