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LIFE cOAcH FLÉcHELLE MORIN ANSWERS YOUR RELATIONSHIP QUESTIONS.
THIS mONTH: SETTING BOUNDARIES FOR YOUR TEENAGE DAUGHTER;
PUTTING AN END TO DESTRUcTIVE RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS
Q.
A. A young teenage girl’s need
I recently discovered my
to connect, to be accepted and to
thirteen year old daughter is
conform is what makes sexting so
sending provocative pictures of
appealing. When a young girl gets
herself via her cell phone. I am
attention from sexualizing herself, it
at a complete loss! What would
gives her a sense of power as a woman,
make a young girl want to do
no matter how false or deceiving in
something like that? Her mother
reality. The reason your daughter
and I confronted her and tried to
doesn’t think there is anything wrong
explain these pictures will damage
with what she is doing is because
her reputation at school, and can
she doesn’t have bad intentions; she
come back to haunt her years
simply wants the attention. And unless
from now. but she thinks there is
she gets the attention she craves from
nothing wrong with sexting and
you in a loving and healthy way, she will
told us ‘all her friends do it.’ I
get it the only way she knows how to.
love my daughter and I don’t want
Often, fathers are not as present in
her growing up thinking that sex
their daughters’ lives as much as they
is dirty, but she is way too young
should be simply because they don’t
to understand—and handle—the
know how. Their daughters go from
consequences of her actions. How
being little girls to becoming young
can I get through to her?
women, seemingly overnight, leaving
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Q. After a year of being together, I broke up with my boyfriend last month.
I thought he was so different from all of the other guys I’ve dated until my
girlfriend told me she knew the relationship was doomed to fail because he
was ‘the same wolf in a different sheep’s clothing!’ I seem to be picking the
same kind of emotionally unavailable guy, unconsciously. How can I stop this
destructive pattern and find a nice, normal guy?
A. It’s common for women to gravitate towards the same type of man in a love
relationship. For instance, if you were in love with a tall, blond guy with blue eyes
in your last relationship, you will likely find yourself attracted to tall, blond men with blue eyes
in the future. If you were in love with a short, dark-haired man, then you will tend to look for a short,
black-haired man in your next relationship. This is a good example of the female brain at work! That
being said, your pattern of getting involved with eternus nocens puer (Latin for ‘eternal bad boys’)
will only stop when you become conscious in your dating quest.
Here’s what I suggest:
First, make a list of the character attributes you do not want in a man. “For example: I don’t want
a man who is emotionally unavailable; I don’t want a man who does drugs; I don’t want a man who
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